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should I stay at home for uni?

so I don’t know whether to choose to stay at home and commute to uni (bradford, not too keen on it) or move out and live in halls in leicester. I know it’s obviously going to be more expensive moving out but I think it’s worth it for the experience. But my parents are worried about the debt I’ll get, which I could easily use on something else if I stay at home. Any thoughts?

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Reply 1
I'm thinking the exact same thing. I live in Liverpool and want to go to UOL, but I see unis like Sheffield and Leeds have the same entry requirements and better performance in each subject I'm interested in. I think you get higher maintenance loans if you're living away from parents? But idk if that's non-repayable or if that's even true. I've spoke to a few professionals and a lot of them went away for uni and really recommended it. The economical side just seems daunting to me.
I stayed at home for uni, because quite frankly I couldn't see any benefits. The costs, plus having to live in a completely different city, plus having to do all your own chores, plus being surrounded by complete strangers. I really have no idea why people do that to themselves.
I would say that if you can, live away from home. The independence is such an important life skill to learn and can be really great in forming life long friends.
Reply 4
People I've spoken to seemed to enjoy studying away from home. Maybe they just wanted a breath of fresh air? Honestly though, if the University of Liverpool can give me a quality education that I can get a good job out of, I'll probably just stay at home and go there.
Original post by Anonymous
I stayed at home for uni, because quite frankly I couldn't see any benefits. The costs, plus having to live in a completely different city, plus having to do all your own chores, plus being surrounded by complete strangers. I really have no idea why people do that to themselves.

Well firstly you need to learn to do those chores at some point without being nagged so why not at uni. Livening in a new city is exciting new experience and all that. Yeah you live with strangers but everyone is a stranger until you meet the so that’s kind of stupid thing to say. Costs? It can work out much cheaper to stay in halls . I worked out if I’d stayed in the cheapest halls I would have saved £900 a year I actually stayed in nicer halls but still saved about £300 also you get less maintenance loan if you live at home.
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Original post by jonathanemptage
Well firstly you need to learn to do those chores at some point without being nagged so why not at uni. Livening in a new city is exciting new experience and all that. Yeah you live with strangers but everyone is a stranger until you meet the so that’s kind of stupid thing to say. Costs? It can work out much cheaper to stay in halls . I worked out if I’d stayed in the cheapest halls I would have saved £900 a year I actually stayed in nicer halls but still saved about £300 also you get less maintenance loan if you live at home.

Still, where exactly is the appeal though when I can just live at home and not worry about those things?
Original post by Anonymous
Still, where exactly is the appeal though when I can just live at home and not worry about those things?

Who will do those chores for you when you're older and your parents aren't doing them ?
Original post by Anonymous
Who will do those chores for you when you're older and your parents aren't doing them ?

Obviously I will but for the time being why waste time on all stuff you have to deal with when living alone?
Reply 9
Yh
Original post by Anonymous
Obviously I will but for the time being why waste time on all stuff you have to deal with when living alone?


You are wasting much more time commuting - what if you are doing group projects? You living at home makes it hard for everyone else. All the resources are at the uni too ...
Original post by Muttley79
You are wasting much more time commuting - what if you are doing group projects? You living at home makes it hard for everyone else. All the resources are at the uni too ...

Depends where you live. For me it was like a 15 minute bus ride away.
Original post by Anonymous
Depends where you live. For me it was like a 15 minute bus ride away.


So a walk to the bus stop plus wait for the bus - at least 45 minutes a day [more in winter] - chores don't take that long and independence is priceless.
What happens if you need to refer to a text in the library late in the evening?
Original post by moonstars27
so I don’t know whether to choose to stay at home and commute to uni (bradford, not too keen on it) or move out and live in halls in leicester. I know it’s obviously going to be more expensive moving out but I think it’s worth it for the experience. But my parents are worried about the debt I’ll get, which I could easily use on something else if I stay at home. Any thoughts?


Hello @moonstars27
It is a big decision for a lot of people, whether to move out or not. I am a recent graduate from the University of Salford and this is a decision I struggled to make way back in my first year. I had the exact same conundrum, I did end up staying at my universities accommodation and all I can say is I did not regret it. One bit of advice i'd give to you is to follow what your gut is saying to you. You are right to have concerns especially about finance that is perfectly normal however there is loads of financial support provided while at university.

You only get to do University once so I would say do it the way you want to

Hope this bit of advice helps you
All the best with it all

Matthew - University of Salford Rep
Original post by Muttley79
So a walk to the bus stop plus wait for the bus - at least 45 minutes a day [more in winter] - chores don't take that long and independence is priceless.
What happens if you need to refer to a text in the library late in the evening?


To be fair I never even set foot in our library so to each their own, but even if I had to, having to get the bus still would be worth it over the pain of living alone.

Also how exactly is independence priceless. What exactly do I even get out of it apart from more stuff to worry about?
I'd always recommend people to move out, regardless of the debt. :yep: way too many pros in favour of it but of course follow your gut and what's best for your personal financial situation / goals.
Original post by Anonymous
To be fair I never even set foot in our library so to each their own, but even if I had to, having to get the bus still would be worth it over the pain of living alone.

Also how exactly is independence priceless. What exactly do I even get out of it apart from more stuff to worry about?

It's called 'being an adult' - it's far more of a shock after uni if you've done nothing for yourself.
Reply 17
Original post by parmezanne
I'd always recommend people to move out, regardless of the debt. :yep: way too many pros in favour of it but of course follow your gut and what's best for your personal financial situation / goals.

Agreed. Discover a new town/city, have your own place, make it easier to socialise and make new friends, learn independence, reduce time wasted commuting etc etc. Lots of students find moving out daunting, that's only natural, but also exiting. Most end up loving the experience, although I also know of a few that haven't and have ended up changing unis in 2nd year to move closer to home so they can commute. Everyone is different I guess.
Original post by Muttley79
It's called 'being an adult' - it's far more of a shock after uni if you've done nothing for yourself.


Then just be a competent person after uni then and not worry about all that stuff yet. Maybe it's just be but the decision to move out for uni just seems absolutely bonkers.
Original post by Anonymous
Then just be a competent person after uni then and not worry about all that stuff yet. Maybe it's just be but the decision to move out for uni just seems absolutely bonkers.


No - staying at home is bonkers. How will you learn to look after yourself if you don't dip your toes [with home as a safety net] at uni? My nephew stayed at home and my niece moved out - guess wo has adapted to life after uni better? There are thousands of other examples too.

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