Not invited on partners family holiday

I'm sorry if this is an unreasonable question, I just wanted to get across how I feel.

Both me and my partner have been together for 2+ years now, we met during college, and have remained as a couple studying at Uni. My family have largely embraced my partner, she regularly comes on her holidays away, and was even invited to a family wedding of mine, even though most SO's were not invited.

Her family has arranged a holiday, and I've not been invited, even though I was prepared to pay my way. Am I being unreasonable to feel like this?

Yes you are . You and your family should do what you feel comfortable doing , not in the expectation that it will be reciprocated .

Also it’s a family holiday , are you married ? If not then you technically aren’t family . 2 years isn’t that long . Your family may have jumped the gun here and been ok if welcoming your partner into the family and lightning speed but not all families are the same . Maybe his want a family holiday to be family only . Nothing wrong with that . Look at it this way , if you partner had lots of gfs over a short period of time , then they’d have randoms in photos potentially for each family holiday .

I was thinking of proposing in summer, once I save up enough money for an engagement ring. I'm a guy, by the way. The only person I've dated in my life was my partner, I'm not the sort of individual who would do that.

I meant to put gf/ bfs but forgot .

either way planning isn’t marriage . And if you’re planning then her family don’t know . so therefore goes back to what I said earlier , maybe they just don’t se you as family yet . And therefore you are not at that threshold warranting an invite .

I think you’re overthinking this , if you were married and you weren’t invited then I’d say you have a point and I’d be ringing your in laws to find out why . But as it stand i would just accept it . Plus why you even want to go . I try my hardest to avoid my mother in law , why are you so eager to go on a holiday with yours? ( future one )

I hate being left out of things, as it makes me feel miserable. Hence why perhaps I'm unreasonable with this.