This guy stole a girl I was interested in

Original post by Anonymous

So this girl finally got free of this guy who treated her bad and was interested in me and at the weekend we were drinking in halls and me and her were getting close but then this loser guy came over mad saying he was lonely how nobody wanted him and she bloody fell for it and slept with him, I'd been grafting all term to get with her only for him to do that. I confronted her about it today and she said she just can't get away from him and said he's big down below, it's not fair, any tips on how I can win her properly over this guy?

Dude,

Unless you were actually exclusively dating this girl, he didn't "steal" her from you.

Not sure what that says about you, but she just thought he was a better catch. It's not rocket science.

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Original post by Old Skool Freak

Dude,

Unless you were actually exclusively dating this girl, he didn't "steal" her from you.

Not sure what that says about you, but she just thought he was a better catch. It's not rocket science.

Yes but she always moaned in the past that he treated her like crap

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Original post by Anonymous

Yes but she always moaned in the past that he treated her like crap

Well there's obviously something good / appealing about him, which makes his faults (however bad they may be) worth putting up with.

How exactly did he "treat her like crap"?

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Dunnig Kruger

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Confronting her about it was a mistake. As it shows you're butt hurt. Which will indicate to her that you lack emotional strength.

Also, she's just 1 young woman. What about the hundreds or thousands of other lovely young women at your uni?

I strongly suspect that there's more to it than this other guy saying he was lonely and nobody wanted him. If he said that in a serious way he was acting in a rather unattractive way. If he said it in a joking / self mocking kind of way then he was acting in an attractive way. Or if he said it seriously and then went on to interact with her in an attractive way, then that's why she slept with him and not you.

Usually you don't get women into bed with you by being ultra nice. Nor by trying to be her best friend.

For future reference, if you're talking with a woman and another guy butts in, there's a couple of ploys you can use:
1. Ask straight away "Do you 2 know each other?". If he says "No", you say "Just give us a minute" and carry on talking with her, maybe moving her to a different location. If he says "Yes", you ask how and then if they're not boyfriend and girlfriend say "Just give us a minute"
2. Play on the fact that he's trying to chat her up. EG "Is that your best pick up line?" with a smile on your face in a friendly tone of voice. Or "Hey, I think you're the sort of guy that's great at picking girls up. Come on, show us how you do it. Show us your really cool pick-up routine..."

You should aim to be the emotionally and mentally strong guy. That talks to everyone and anyone around campus and in your halls in a positive and enthusiastic way. That keeps things light. That laughs a lot and others laugh a lot around him. Also be the sort of guy that takes the lead in escalating to sex in a socially calibrated non rapey way.

And also don't forget to do proper revision for your end of year exams. So that you're the sort of guy that handles exam pressure well.

I have one or two amusing anecdotes I can trot out about large penises. A bit of joking around was the sort of thing to do when she mentioned his size.

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Original post by Old Skool Freak

Well there's obviously something good / appealing about him, which makes his faults (however bad they may be) worth putting up with.

How exactly did he "treat her like crap"?

She said he uses her I'm done with this ****

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Anonymous #3

Grafting all term?? Either she doesnt want you or you did not make a move and are somehow upset that she did not choose you. She does not owe you jack ****

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Original post by Anonymous

Grafting all term?? Either she doesnt want you or you did not make a move and are somehow upset that she did not choose you. She does not owe you jack ****

She hinted we should do stuff together until he butted in I was finally getting somewhere fed up of these girls who can't make their minds up

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Original post by Anonymous

She hinted we should do stuff together until he butted in I was finally getting somewhere fed up of these girls who can't make their minds up

That's life bro. Sometimes you're the pigeon, sometimes you're the statue.

If it's any consolation, I doubt you were really anything more than a shoulder to cry on, otherwise she would have jumped you at the first chance (even if it was a rebound). Either way, it ain't happening now is it.

Summer's here, go find another girl who actually likes you.

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Original post by Old Skool Freak

That's life bro. Sometimes you're the pigeon, sometimes you're the statue.

If it's any consolation, I doubt you were really anything more than a shoulder to cry on, otherwise she would have jumped you at the first chance (even if it was a rebound). Either way, it ain't happening now is it.

Summer's here, go find another girl who actually likes you.

Doubt it women often prefer the bad guy who messes them around long as he's tall rich then a guy like me has no chance even in uni halls

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