First off, it sounds like a pretty tough situation to be handling and I'm sorry that things didn't pan out because of the parents enforcing that familial rule. I don't think it changes what my thoughts are regarding your situation.
I think it would help to reflect on how you feel about her continuing to flirt with you and seemingly sending mixed messages in relation to what feelings you might still have towards her - particularly romantic feelings. I say this because ultimately you should give yourself the grace and self-respect to set the personal boundaries for how you comfortably interact with this girl - and yes, if you were a girl, I'd be giving the exact same sentiment. At the end of the day, this situation boils down to having self-respect and grace for yourself as an individual.
Regardless of what her motivations are for sending these mixed messages, if it bothers you to the point where you're constantly torn about it, then I would encourage you to let her know and figure out precisely where you two stand. The last thing that I would want for you is to feel like you're an emotional water jug for her. As far as I am concerned, you guys are friends, post-relationship - meaning that your dynamic should reflect a cordial (and platonic) relationship, not a romantic one. Her sending you mixed messages ultimately prevents you from fully moving on and it's somewhat unfair to you as a person. Just my 2 cents.