I want to approach my crush 😭

I guess I’m really just asking for advice on how to approach him, without it seeming weird.
He works at a local supermarket and I don’t think I can approach while he’s working (at least that’s what I think)
I’m thinking of approaching him during his break again I’m at a loss of words and don’t know how to initiate conversation
Also a part of me thinks he would find this incredibly awkward and weird (idk if it’s just in my head)
We’ve made locked eyes several times and idk if it’s me being delusional but a part of me thinks there could be something 😭

What should I say first ? How do I start a conversation?

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Do you both work in the supermarket? Trying to chat him up whilst he's working isn't really going to go well (I would try to keep it short).

It's likely going to be weird if:

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You make it weird

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You are being too self conscious and not being comfortable

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You try to rush things

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He doesn't feel comfortable about where it is going

Instead of trying to think of this as a pick up, think of this as a way to socialise.

Normal conversations usually start with 'hi'. Keep it casual. Start off with small talk. It's not that different from talking to a friend (although I have mixed answers regarding this as some people don't want to interpret being friendly as a way of coming onto people). Keep it light until it feels more comfortable talking about something more personal.
For initial conversations, you should try to keep it short (especially if he's working). Give him an excuse to see you again and to exchange contact details e.g. hang out later, both expressed an interest in a band so you would want to exchange playlists, like certain food and want to point him out to certain places to eat, etc.
Your objective is to make it comfortable, and try to meet up later.

What I don't recommend people do:

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Expect him to magically make everything happen (hopefully you're not one of these; it's purely delusional and stupid)

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Avoid conversation of any type

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Play hard to get (all people hate this, and it only borderline works in specific situation on those who are of a particular attachment style that makes up 7% of the population; it's also very unhealthy mentally)

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Not act human

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Not relax and be your best self (if you're geeky, be geeky; if you're chirpy, be chirpy; if you don't like French food, don't say that you do - just tone things down until you know how you can behave around him)

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Drop hints as if he's supposed to be a mind reader

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Start complaining about men

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Go straight into the sensitive topics right off the bat e.g. politics, sex, religion - unless you're specifically at a talk or both were watching something on TV (situational)

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Drag on the conversation for a long time if he's busy with something

In essense, picture the person you're talking to as human with human benefits and flaws. Relate to him as a human, and that you have opinions just the same. Stay down to earth, and you should be fine.