My girlfriend is going through an extremely hard time dealing with some past experiences and traumas right now. On top of that she is out of the country rn and I cant be physically close to her. I have been calling, listening, supporting, helping, reassuring her every day during this time despite having my own difficulties with other things, I’ve been fully available. One morning I was at a lecture though trying to listen to the teacher and she called me. I hung up and, to let her know and not second guess the situation, I texted her immediately exactly this: “I’m in class” “I’ll call you later”. But next she got annoyed saying that I was being dry to her. For me this is not dry and perfectly fine either way. When I called her after the lecture I anyway apologised and calmly said i’ll try to text her differently in the future but at the same time tried to tell her that for me it’s perfectly fine and understandable and that it shouldn't be something I should be forced to do. She started getting angry at me saying that i “not try to, but have to”, that i’m thinking more about myself and that she doesnt want me to understand at all bc she is the one in a really bad place. Even after explaining to her that this is my own space and her requests are too much for me to handle without feeling like a puppet, she still didnt want to have any of it and currently doesnt feel like talking to me after this.
Could i please have some second opinions on this? Both on whether this boundary of mine is good or could be better (i normally am quite lenient i would say), on whether I am doing something wrong, on my girlfriend’s demands, and how to deal with this any differently. Bc I am really starting to doubt even myself. Would really appreciate an opinion from another set of eyes thanks