Female Pleasure problems

Im 14 and im looking to please myself, but I don't have my period and I'm scared to insert anything into me, can I not insert anything if I don't have my period?

Reply 1

ageshallnot

I fail to see the connection.

Reply 2

anon27368387373

Original post by Anonymous #1

Im 14 and im looking to please myself, but I don't have my period and I'm scared to insert anything into me, can I not insert anything if I don't have my period?

There’s no relationship with your period and inserting anything. If you want to do it then you should definitely clean whatever you’re using and definitely wash your hands. If you’re too scared to insert anything you don’t have to. There are other methods aswell.

Reply 3

EmilyJade24

Thank you for sharing so openly with us. I can feel your frustration with yourself coming through your words.

Everything that you have described is absolutely normal for a survivor.
It is incredibly hard to leave and there’s always that rationalisation and minimising the situation. So many women feel the shame and guilt of what’s been done to them and of staying. There are strong psychological aspects that prevent women leaving, these are part and parcel, it is not your fault.
You’ve experienced trauma over an extended period and it takes time to heal. The reactions that you’re having are your body and mind trying to keep you safe. Just like it was a process to get you to this point, it’s a process to unpick it. Support can be helpful with that.
You could reach out toa local charity], some of them have specialist trauma-informed counselling or will know of what’s available locally. You could also speak to your GP about what you’re experiencing, it may be that a referral to a specialist service would be appropriate.
Please know that you’re not alone in what you’re feeling. I know that many of the other women on this forum have felt these things and I hope that sharing in experiences here helps you be kinder to yourself.

Reply 4

ageshallnot

Original post by EmilyJade24

Thank you for sharing so openly with us. I can feel your frustration with yourself coming through your words.

Everything that you have described is absolutely normal for a survivor.
It is incredibly hard to leave and there’s always that rationalisation and minimising the situation. So many women feel the shame and guilt of what’s been done to them and of staying. There are strong psychological aspects that prevent women leaving, these are part and parcel, it is not your fault.
You’ve experienced trauma over an extended period and it takes time to heal. The reactions that you’re having are your body and mind trying to keep you safe. Just like it was a process to get you to this point, it’s a process to unpick it. Support can be helpful with that.
You could reach out to your service, some of them have specialist trauma-informed counselling or will know of what’s available locally. You could also speak to your GP about what you’re experiencing, it may be that a referral to a specialist service would be appropriate.
Please know that you’re not alone in what you’re feeling. I know that many of the other women on this forum have felt these things and I hope that sharing in experiences here helps you be kinder to yourself.