I'm almost 21 and have never been in a relationship

What area are you in? I'm in the South East and feel a bit bitter about the opportunities it's denied me. The people and unfriendliness suck. Every good encounter I've had has been with a foreigner. You just get that boring, callous, cold hearted, user feeling from people.

It's supposed to be but he still hasn't ever dated and I really don't know why.

well its a fact of life that far more men than women end up chronically alone, single, later than normal

Really?!?

Where's your source or evidence that confirms this "fact"? If it's a "fact", then you should be able to quote / reference a credible impartial source that we can all check that what you're claiming is true.

If you can't provide this, then it's NOT a fact... it's propaganda, or at best, only your opinion (or rather your belief).

Yeah I'm a guy. Women have it easier in this regard no doubt. Not whingeing it's just a fact.

Every day I feel less and less desirable, despite going to the gym and trying to heal myself physically (I suffer from baldness but I take drugs recommended by the trichologist... I hope they will work, because without hair I would be horrible).

There's not much else to say. I have girl friends with whom I contact every now and then, but from a romantic point of view it's a disaster and the fact that a girl likes me seems inconceivable to me.

Girl here--we DO have it easier. Guys are always expected to make the first move so they have to put themselves out there for rejection.

So what?

As I said earlier, rejections aren't the end of the world. For sure, the first time it'll probably hurt (especially if it's a crush that's gone on for some time)... but in the real, adult world, rejections tend to be either

a) getting blown out in a pub / club type environment or
b) ignored on dating apps.

In either of those scenarios, why is is such a big deal that some random stranger didn't fancy "making babies" with him? Plenty more people out there. I remember reading about how George Clooney got blown out by a waitress he liked, because she had agreed to go home with someone else... so if it can happen to an A list celebrity, then anyone can get blown out.

There are all sorts of reasons a girl could say "No" to a guy... many of which may be her issue and not his. From my experience, most rejections aren't too bad... the only people who really get harsh rejections are those who those who create a bad first impression (e.g. act creepy, sleazy or otherwise behaving inappropriately) or those who won't take a polite "No thanks" at first.

Yes, there are some girls who think they're The Queen of Sheba, and will reject anyone they don't like harshly, but (from my experience) they're uncommon (less than 10%?). Still, my take on that is that she's done me a favour; she's shown me just what a real "female-dog" she is from the out-set, instead of messing with my head 2-3 months down the line.

In any case, not approaching someone for fear of rejection is about as effective as solving the problem as an Ostrich sticking its head in the sand when faced with danger.

Remember this:- Ships are safest when they're in the harbour... but that's NOT what ships were build for.

why am i not surprised that your a guy, male.

Every day I feel less and less desirable, despite going to the gym and trying to heal myself physically (I suffer from baldness but I take drugs recommended by the trichologist... I hope they will work, because without hair I would be horrible).

There's not much else to say. I have girl friends with whom I contact every now and then, but from a romantic point of view it's a disaster and the fact that a girl likes me seems inconceivable to me.

Yeah I'm a guy. Women have it easier in this regard no doubt. Not whingeing it's just a fact.

Same. And I'm 34 almost 35. I would say it gets better, but it just doesn't in my experience

I think what foxsmum was getting at was we must conform to what society expects us to do, that is, guys expecting to make the first move. This is not new behaviour - in fact if you go far back enough in history men have always been the one to make the first move.

And why should this change any time soon if it has worked successfully for everyone thus far?

Bro do not sweat it! My advice is to focus on bettering yourself! Get educated and make money! When you have money you will have confidence. Also 21 is young! Life isn't a race you can get your first girlfriend when you are 24 or older.

Our son is 20 goes to the gym and I'm told (by his friends) that girls think he's cute YET he's never had a girlfriend. I really don't get it. His friends have all had gf's. So I can really understand where you're coming from. I know he'd like to have a gf but...I'm going to post his pic so you can see that you're not alone He's not the most outgoing type, maybe you're the same?

It's good you're concerned. My parents never told me they were about my singlehood. I think privately they find it hard to understand. But they should try my area in my day and age then they might see how cold it is.

it’s cold everywhere man… even here where i live. It’s colder than in the past due to social networks, which make socializing easier online but harder offline. Now, an approach in the daily life is unexpected but i think it’s an actually good thing cause approaching a girl in real life is way more appreciated than online. Nowadays, most relationships begin online and it’s a pity… but i don’t have socials and that’s a way to push me to approach people in real life.

So, if your parents lived today they’d be struggling too (without embracing the online dating thing).

I would say they have it harder ish. As a guy you can get married at any age but if a woman wants to have kids she has to marry young. It really depends on the context.