Upset about not being invited by housemate

My housemate hosts dinners for her friends in the house every week, but she has never invited me to join. Last week, I told her that I would like to join. She said that she could tell me if she was to host dinners in the house and that I could pop in if I wish. Tonight, I returned to find her and her friends having fun meals in the living room. I am upset because I feel like a stranger in a house I pay rent to stay in. When they are having dinner there, I won't be able to use it but shut myself off in another room. In the past, I had flatmates who always asked me if I would like to join whenever they had guests coming over. I am not sure if this contributes to my current upset.

Reply 1

Surnia

You and your housemate are tenants; you don't have to be friends and socialise together. You could have asked to jointhem tonight as the offer was made. Anyway, what's stopping you having friends over?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Surnia

My housemate made the promise days ago and didn't follow it for whatever reasons. I pay rent and am entitled to use the space. Unannounced dinner guests prevent me from using what I pay for and so I asked to be included, which is reasonable. I treat my housemate with due respect and do everything necessary to be kind and responsible. I don't see how I should be treated as a stranger. I don't demand anything more than what any ordinary person wants. It's a matter of decency and you don't have to be friends with someone to know that, unless you think everything is a relationship of benefits which would be pretty nasty.