This thread may offend people... But let's try not to turn it into a slanging match.

Okay, well every other day we have a new "How to attract women", "How to get a girlfriend" thread.

We do occasionally get these thread from women about men, but the fact is - men feel (rightly or wrongly) that it's much easier for women and that they hold all the cards.

When such threads pop, up you'll have guys who'll state things like:
"Don't compliment women, until such and such a time..."
"Don't do X,Y & Z on the first date."
"Don't say X, Y & Z until such and such a time"

Whereas the girls will immediately state that the above advice is nonsense, a guy should just 'be himself', and 'no formula works for all girls.'

My question is - Is this really the case?
Obviously nothing will ever work for every person on earth, but does doing certain things (even things girls claim they hate) increase your chances?

Do most women (and men, but like I said it's a problem men feel more) actually truly desire what they say they do, in your experience?

I ask this because I was hanging out with a friend of mine, who I hadn't seen since college, and he said he's had an epiphany since university, and that he no longer (or very very rarely) compliments women he's interesting in on their appearance, which has resulted in him becoming 'successful' with the ladies. He isn't rude to them or anything. Just simply doesn't compliment them on their appearance.

Obviously most women would claim they'd never like that. But his theory is that women hear it all the time, and by not complimenting them (even if they compliment him) they become more interested.

So do we (both men and women) actually know what we want?


Inb4 - 'The type of woman that doesn't like compliments isn't worth it, or whatever.'

Girls will have you believe that compliments and flowers are the way to go, but give it a try and see how far you get.

Personally, I'd want you to be yourself. That way, I know from the beginning whether or not I'm really attracted to you. Wouldn't want to be in a relationship with the wrong idea of someone.

Haha! so you agree with us really then? Have you had experiences that made you feel like girls don't pick guys for the right reasons?

I hate compliments about how I look, well excessive ones, so yes.

ditto.
nice rack btw

I hate compliments about how I look, well excessive ones, so yes.

Liar. I has no boobs. No boobs at all!

You too?

I genuinely don't know how to react... I feel like if I say thank you, i'm essentially saying the compliment too. But I rarely agree with any compliments I get about my appearance. But I don't like to reciprocate a compliment I don't mean as it comes across SO fake.

boobies unless proven otherwise im afraid.
#admiringtheview

Lol, just do what I do, just mirror the conpliment. If someone tells you you have a nice arse, say "thank you, so do you!" Youll soon notice that old ladies stop complementing your arse

Lol, just do what I do, just mirror the conpliment. If someone tells you you have a nice arse, say "thank you, so do you!" Youll soon notice that old ladies stop complementing your arse



Lolol, okay. Your rack is pretty hot too

You too?

I genuinely don't know how to react... I feel like if I say thank you, i'm essentially saying the compliment too. But I rarely agree with any compliments I get about my appearance. But I don't like to reciprocate a compliment I don't mean as it comes across SO fake.

That's why you say thank you

Girls will have you believe that compliments and flowers are the way to go, but give it a try and see how far you get.

Girls who say just be yourself are lying. Girls love bad boys because they're girls and lack maturity.

Women want men. Women know what they want because they're mature enough to know a decent guy who may not be as attractive is a better potential partner than an attractive guy who's an arse and treats them bad.

The same could be said of boys and men. That stage of maturity is vital. Its when you grow up and realise what really matters.