Firstly, I know it’s dumb. It is what it is, you live and you learn.
I basically saw this hot guy and at an event but never got to converse with him, we were flirting and holding eye contact… very strong eye contact throughout the event and in the next event he tried looking to find me. Unfortunately for us it was with men and women separate and we never got to see each other or talk. We were in our mid teens so yeah.
I never really felt anything that crazy in term of chemistry. I didn’t know his name but I did end up finding him through looking into mutual people we know and their friends list on Facebook. When I recognised him I found his name and from there a quick google search and his other socials were available. His Twitter included his instagram so I got my friend to add his instagram just so I could learn more about him.
Please note that this 3 years after I saw him as I was in relationships in between but often thought of him when I was lonely.
Long story short: I added him on my friends account, I found out he had a gf so nothing came of it. There was no interaction on either account apart from him watching my friend stories. After about 5-6 months I blocked and unblocked on his account so my friend or his account were no longer following each other and that was that. Now one day I’m walking into town and I feel a gaze on me, a very strong one and I know some dude is watching me. I look up and see him, I think he was confused on if it was me or not because it’s been a few years. So he was kind of glaring and confused trying to sue it out, I purposely ignored him as I didn’t recognise him right away and it was uncomfortable. I waited for him to look away and when he did I sneaked a glance and it was him. At this point he’s looking at my friend and he recognises her after a few seconds and turns his head away from us and looks pretty damn angry and offended. Pulling quite dramatic faces in anger.
He has told his brother and his brother is the closest person who knows of me (not personally but I see him every now and then) and he’s also giving me dirty looks.
So I’m asking, why is it a huge deal? He didn’t know my friend but still followed her and accepted her and there were other people he didn’t know either on his insta. Why am I getting named and shamed for it? Was he never interested in me? I mean I’m sure if he did like me he wouldn’t care right? Idk.