Is it shameful to see hookers yes/no?
The recomendations I see a hooker got me thinking aobut it again.
I'm sure the women hate you and just want to take your money and throw you out. Of course they aren't going to be in love with you or anything like that but I imagine the contempt is just brimming beneath the sruface.
I've always avoided it before as I felt that it's the utimate admittal of defeat, and admission to the women that you pay of what a total loser you are. As if youre self esteem couldn't get lower then it just hit a new low.
I find it strange why it is viewed this way though, because think of eating a meal. Soemtimes you cook yourself sometimes you go out and pay for a meal. It isn't considered shameful in that sense. Quite the opposite, it can be seen as lavish and 'splashing out'. Why then is it considered heinous to see hookers? Just a societal thing? maybe but unless you're a buddhist hermit then anyone's self image is going to be closely tied to how otehrs percieve you whehter they admit it or not.
There are quite a few hooker parlours only a couple of blocks from my house and I always see very desperate guys piling in and out of them when walking back from a club. I am also a desperate loser too ofc. but I don't want to be reminded of it by frequenting the same places that even more desperate loser frequent.
Those walk up joints are affordable at 35 quid a shag but the girls on adult work cost about 150 quid and I would feel paranoid going to some flat of theirs. I worry that they have some russian mafia heavies lying in wait either to mug me or blackmail me. Certainly not the kind of mood to keep my pecker up.
So it seems even hookers are off the cards for me.
I'm sure the women hate you and just want to take your money and throw you out. Of course they aren't going to be in love with you or anything like that but I imagine the contempt is just brimming beneath the sruface.
I've always avoided it before as I felt that it's the utimate admittal of defeat, and admission to the women that you pay of what a total loser you are. As if youre self esteem couldn't get lower then it just hit a new low.
I find it strange why it is viewed this way though, because think of eating a meal. Soemtimes you cook yourself sometimes you go out and pay for a meal. It isn't considered shameful in that sense. Quite the opposite, it can be seen as lavish and 'splashing out'. Why then is it considered heinous to see hookers? Just a societal thing? maybe but unless you're a buddhist hermit then anyone's self image is going to be closely tied to how otehrs percieve you whehter they admit it or not.
There are quite a few hooker parlours only a couple of blocks from my house and I always see very desperate guys piling in and out of them when walking back from a club. I am also a desperate loser too ofc. but I don't want to be reminded of it by frequenting the same places that even more desperate loser frequent.
Those walk up joints are affordable at 35 quid a shag but the girls on adult work cost about 150 quid and I would feel paranoid going to some flat of theirs. I worry that they have some russian mafia heavies lying in wait either to mug me or blackmail me. Certainly not the kind of mood to keep my pecker up.
So it seems even hookers are off the cards for me.
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Yeah I think it is. I don't think I'd ever be able to respect a guy who does that.
Original post by Tanjida95x
Yeah I think it is. I don't think I'd ever be able to respect a guy who does that.
I agree. Gross.
It's disgusting, even if you don't catch an STI the act of paying for sex is shameful.
Well it is like having sex with girls who are considered ugly/chubby is also shameful, doesnt mean it can't be fun 
. and I wouldn't tell any potential partner about it.
Though interestingly I feel better about myself shagging a chubby even though I wouldnt wanna tell, cos then I feel at least I earned it 'fair and square'.
Women say it's shameful because you control men with sex and don't like the idea of them getting it somewhere else cos you lose the only thing that gives you power over men. I suppose that is why it's considered shameful by society. It interrupts the usual method of sex as social control.
Women like staus and television dictates what is of high status- woo n dubs, lil wayne, joey essex, blah blah blah, decadent spending of money = good economy. Therefore men try and impress women by doing the socially conditioned high status things and so the circlejerk vacuous behaviour continues.
. and I wouldn't tell any potential partner about it. Though interestingly I feel better about myself shagging a chubby even though I wouldnt wanna tell, cos then I feel at least I earned it 'fair and square'.
Women say it's shameful because you control men with sex and don't like the idea of them getting it somewhere else cos you lose the only thing that gives you power over men. I suppose that is why it's considered shameful by society. It interrupts the usual method of sex as social control.
Women like staus and television dictates what is of high status- woo n dubs, lil wayne, joey essex, blah blah blah, decadent spending of money = good economy. Therefore men try and impress women by doing the socially conditioned high status things and so the circlejerk vacuous behaviour continues.
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Original post by Rad-Reloaded
It's disgusting, even if you don't catch an STI the act of paying for sex is shameful.
Most men have paid for sex, be it directly or indirectly, often without realising.
As long as you're single and therefore you're not cheating on anyone, I don't really see the problem as long as you keep yourself safe. It's not something I would personally do, if I were a guy or even as a woman, I wouldn't go to a male escort but each to their own.
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Is it shameful to see a hooker? Probably.
It is shameful to sit crying all day at home because all you want is a girl to like you but literally none will even consider you? Probably.
My point? Yes, it is shameful to see a hooker. But if you are in the position where you are considering it, make no mistake, you are also in a pretty shameful situation.
Is it shameful to have to pay someone to show affection toward you? Yes. It is shameful to be so undesirable that unless you pay for it you don't get any? Yes.
So see a hooker or don't, the situation is still pretty dire in my view.
It is shameful to sit crying all day at home because all you want is a girl to like you but literally none will even consider you? Probably.
My point? Yes, it is shameful to see a hooker. But if you are in the position where you are considering it, make no mistake, you are also in a pretty shameful situation.
Is it shameful to have to pay someone to show affection toward you? Yes. It is shameful to be so undesirable that unless you pay for it you don't get any? Yes.
So see a hooker or don't, the situation is still pretty dire in my view.
Original post by Tanjida95x
Yeah I think it is. I don't think I'd ever be able to respect a guy who does that.
Most women, for good reasons, would say what you do.
However, the elephant in the room is that for the guys using hookers; no girl was interested in him anyway. He is essentially going from having no interest to having no interest anyway surely?
I used the site you mention to lose my virginity and it was the best £60 I ever spent. Just go for it. I wouldn't spend £150 unless they were model hot, or some novelty, like a transexual.
I suppose if you're not using it to lose your virginity, or end a dry spell, then you are are admitting your failure to attract a mate, but you'll be a satisfied failure.
I suppose if you're not using it to lose your virginity, or end a dry spell, then you are are admitting your failure to attract a mate, but you'll be a satisfied failure.
Original post by 4Skin
I used the site you mention to lose my virginity and it was the best £60 I ever spent. Just go for it. I wouldn't spend £150 unless they were model hot, or some novelty, like a transexual.
I suppose if you're not using it to lose your virginity, or end a dry spell, then you are are admitting your failure to attract a mate, but you'll be a satisfied failure.
I suppose if you're not using it to lose your virginity, or end a dry spell, then you are are admitting your failure to attract a mate, but you'll be a satisfied failure.
Well I get laid 'naturally' every 4-6 months but in between is like torture and I never know where my next lay is coming from it feels like I will die in between.
After its been a couple of months with no prospects all I can think about is sex and watching porn depresses me more because I can see the girls but can't touch them and start to despise the guys on them wishing they would die because im so jealous of them.
What was your hooker experience like? did you go to their flat? and did it feel comfortable when you were in there? how did they treat you? 60 quid is a good price and Id happily pay it if it meant not having to being in a lineup with a load of other guys like in the walk in parlours.. Id pay that. but like i said Ive only seen in the 100 plus range on adultwork. Maybe there are a few bargains I hadnt spotted
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Why are you comparing going out and buying a meal to paying for a quick shag? And yeah it is pretty shameful seeing as the majority of guys nowadays don't pay for.sex but whatever...your money. And if you're in brum, there's a brothel across the road from my college. They do 30mins for £60. Don't ask how I know 
Original post by Harambulus
Well I get laid 'naturally' every 4-6 months but in between is like torture and I never know where my next lay is coming from it feels like I will die in between.
After its been a couple of months with no prospects all I can think about is sex and watching porn depresses me more because I can see the girls but can't touch them and start to despise the guys on them wishing they would die because im so jealous of them.
What was your hooker experience like? did you go to their flat? and did it feel comfortable when you were in there? how did they treat you? 60 quid is a good price and Id happily pay it if it meant not having to being in a lineup with a load of other guys like in the walk in parlours.. Id pay that. but like i said Ive only seen in the 100 plus range on adultwork. Maybe there are a few bargains I hadnt spotted
After its been a couple of months with no prospects all I can think about is sex and watching porn depresses me more because I can see the girls but can't touch them and start to despise the guys on them wishing they would die because im so jealous of them.
What was your hooker experience like? did you go to their flat? and did it feel comfortable when you were in there? how did they treat you? 60 quid is a good price and Id happily pay it if it meant not having to being in a lineup with a load of other guys like in the walk in parlours.. Id pay that. but like i said Ive only seen in the 100 plus range on adultwork. Maybe there are a few bargains I hadnt spotted
I was more focused on the fact that I was going to have sex for the first time, than the actual experience, but it was enjoyable enough. I called her the previous day to arrange it and she gave me her address. She said 'You must speak slowly I am Polish'. Her flat was within walking distance of mine. Stupidly (bare in mind I was a virgin) I was freaking about not being able to perform, so I ended up masturbating beforehand and jizzing on the way to her house and ended up sticky and shrivelled. When I got up she greeted me wearily but thereafter she was friendly enough. More attractive than the pictures too. There was no pimp or anything. Didn't quite understand my request to use her toilet because of her bad English but then I handed her the £60 and went to her bathroom. Anyway she got straight down to it when I explained things slowly, and I banged her for ages. Went well over the 30 mins. She wiped me off and I got dressed awkwardly in silence. Probably best keeping your socks on.
The standard fee seems to be £70 for half an hour, 100-140 for 1 hour, but more if they're really attractive/ex porn stars. Some street prostitutes use AW and charge more on there than the street, but you can usually tell. Best avoid those heroiny bags of Hep.
If you think a hooker will get bring you some confidence and there isn't likely prospects soon, just go for it. I'll soon be doing the same following a dry spell which admittedly I've made no effort to remedy.
Original post by Harambulus
The recomendations I see a hooker got me thinking aobut it again.
I'm sure the women hate you and just want to take your money and throw you out. Of course they aren't going to be in love with you or anything like that but I imagine the contempt is just brimming beneath the sruface.
I've always avoided it before as I felt that it's the utimate admittal of defeat, and admission to the women that you pay of what a total loser you are. As if youre self esteem couldn't get lower then it just hit a new low.
I find it strange why it is viewed this way though, because think of eating a meal. Soemtimes you cook yourself sometimes you go out and pay for a meal. It isn't considered shameful in that sense. Quite the opposite, it can be seen as lavish and 'splashing out'. Why then is it considered heinous to see hookers? Just a societal thing? maybe but unless you're a buddhist hermit then anyone's self image is going to be closely tied to how otehrs percieve you whehter they admit it or not.
There are quite a few hooker parlours only a couple of blocks from my house and I always see very desperate guys piling in and out of them when walking back from a club. I am also a desperate loser too ofc. but I don't want to be reminded of it by frequenting the same places that even more desperate loser frequent.
Those walk up joints are affordable at 35 quid a shag but the girls on adult work cost about 150 quid and I would feel paranoid going to some flat of theirs. I worry that they have some russian mafia heavies lying in wait either to mug me or blackmail me. Certainly not the kind of mood to keep my pecker up.
So it seems even hookers are off the cards for me.
I'm sure the women hate you and just want to take your money and throw you out. Of course they aren't going to be in love with you or anything like that but I imagine the contempt is just brimming beneath the sruface.
I've always avoided it before as I felt that it's the utimate admittal of defeat, and admission to the women that you pay of what a total loser you are. As if youre self esteem couldn't get lower then it just hit a new low.
I find it strange why it is viewed this way though, because think of eating a meal. Soemtimes you cook yourself sometimes you go out and pay for a meal. It isn't considered shameful in that sense. Quite the opposite, it can be seen as lavish and 'splashing out'. Why then is it considered heinous to see hookers? Just a societal thing? maybe but unless you're a buddhist hermit then anyone's self image is going to be closely tied to how otehrs percieve you whehter they admit it or not.
There are quite a few hooker parlours only a couple of blocks from my house and I always see very desperate guys piling in and out of them when walking back from a club. I am also a desperate loser too ofc. but I don't want to be reminded of it by frequenting the same places that even more desperate loser frequent.
Those walk up joints are affordable at 35 quid a shag but the girls on adult work cost about 150 quid and I would feel paranoid going to some flat of theirs. I worry that they have some russian mafia heavies lying in wait either to mug me or blackmail me. Certainly not the kind of mood to keep my pecker up.
So it seems even hookers are off the cards for me.
I used to be a hooker and my contempt is definitely brimming beneath the "sruface." Indeed.
I'm kidding, I was never a hooker.
Original post by 4Skin
I was more focused on the fact that I was going to have sex for the first time, than the actual experience, but it was enjoyable enough. I called her the previous day to arrange it and she gave me her address. She said 'You must speak slowly I am Polish'. Her flat was within walking distance of mine. Stupidly (bare in mind I was a virgin) I was freaking about not being able to perform, so I ended up masturbating beforehand and jizzing on the way to her house and ended up sticky and shrivelled. When I got up she greeted me wearily but thereafter she was friendly enough. More attractive than the pictures too. There was no pimp or anything. Didn't quite understand my request to use her toilet because of her bad English but then I handed her the £60 and went to her bathroom. Anyway she got straight down to it when I explained things slowly, and I banged her for ages. Went well over the 30 mins. She wiped me off and I got dressed awkwardly in silence. Probably best keeping your socks on.
The standard fee seems to be £70 for half an hour, 100-140 for 1 hour, but more if they're really attractive/ex porn stars. Some street prostitutes use AW and charge more on there than the street, but you can usually tell. Best avoid those heroiny bags of Hep.
If you think a hooker will get bring you some confidence and there isn't likely prospects soon, just go for it. I'll soon be doing the same following a dry spell which admittedly I've made no effort to remedy.
The standard fee seems to be £70 for half an hour, 100-140 for 1 hour, but more if they're really attractive/ex porn stars. Some street prostitutes use AW and charge more on there than the street, but you can usually tell. Best avoid those heroiny bags of Hep.
If you think a hooker will get bring you some confidence and there isn't likely prospects soon, just go for it. I'll soon be doing the same following a dry spell which admittedly I've made no effort to remedy.
This is something that I've really been thinking about but im just not sure. I'm 24 and i quit porn with the aim of getting laid but nothing happened. I've got some shame around my sexuality even though i've been on dates and i feel weird touching and flirting with girls.
Even wanting to **** girls makes me feel weird and creepy. How was the experience and do you regret it? How old were you when you did it? I found a nice girl but she's expensive. £100 for 30 mins or £150 for an hour.
Original post by Anonymous
This is something that I've really been thinking about but im just not sure. I'm 24 and i quit porn with the aim of getting laid but nothing happened. I've got some shame around my sexuality even though i've been on dates and i feel weird touching and flirting with girls.
Even wanting to **** girls makes me feel weird and creepy. How was the experience and do you regret it? How old were you when you did it? I found a nice girl but she's expensive. £100 for 30 mins or £150 for an hour.
Even wanting to **** girls makes me feel weird and creepy. How was the experience and do you regret it? How old were you when you did it? I found a nice girl but she's expensive. £100 for 30 mins or £150 for an hour.
I was 25 or 24 (cant recall one of the two) when I first lost it, and now Im on 44 lays so there is still hope.
Though unlike you i guess I spent the previous 5 years doing the PUA stuff whcih has done me alot of good overall. I used to be able to approach 30 women a night in my peak, not that I got laid then so it was still extremely frutrating but it was good practice. Now I hate rejection so much I hesitate to even approach 1 a night but ironically Im good at the other stuff once the girl is attracted to me.
but I am also ****ed up mentally due to seeing women's worst side in clubs for so many years; but also stupid ignorant drunk baffoons in general, guys included. How everyone just basically bullies everyone else in those places and the most ruthless and aggressive people come out on top
So Id recomend going crazy on the pua for a good few years, its really the only way your gonna get laid legit. without doing underhanded things to get laid like hookers. Its just for me im currently spinning my wheels since I practiced every method for several years and it doesnt help due to my extreme negative beliefs about women and the human race in general.
Though you might as well see a hooker to get your first one out the way. It doesnt really make a difference imo becuase first time you will be **** at it anyway and not able to enjoy it. I feel Im only just starting to get good at sex now, but Im sure others can learn it quicker. Also I never had a regular girlfirend to practice on so I had to stumble through time and time again on one night stands which is alot more performance pressure.
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Original post by Anonymous
This is something that I've really been thinking about but im just not sure. I'm 24 and i quit porn with the aim of getting laid but nothing happened. I've got some shame around my sexuality even though i've been on dates and i feel weird touching and flirting with girls.
Even wanting to **** girls makes me feel weird and creepy. How was the experience and do you regret it? How old were you when you did it? I found a nice girl but she's expensive. £100 for 30 mins or £150 for an hour.
Even wanting to **** girls makes me feel weird and creepy. How was the experience and do you regret it? How old were you when you did it? I found a nice girl but she's expensive. £100 for 30 mins or £150 for an hour.
If wanting to touch women makes you feel creepy then you might have issues sleeping with a prostitute won't resolve. Maybe you're gay, have extreme low self-confidence or are a Muslim?
I was 25. The experience was enjoyable, awkward, and ultimately disappointing (because I had build sex up so much in my mind). It demystified it though, and I was thereafter more confident interacting with women (though still very shy, less with each bang), which ultimately lead to more fulfilling sex.
There's no reason to pay that much unless you're in London or she's a model, but if you can afford that and she's fit then go for it. View it as a just another pleasurable activity and not something that will instantly change your life and you'll be fine.
I've been with probably half a dozen hookers over the years. Though the last one was years and years ago. It's just business.
As a matter of fact, I'd argue with the OP that hookers don't actually hate the guys that do this. I took one very attractive hooker from El Salvador out for dinner several weeks after our initial "rendevous" We got on very well in a social setting with no money or services exchanging hands at all. She obviously didn't hate me because I'd previously put some money her way to do the dirty or we wouldn't have met socially at a later date.
Of course, I realise this is an anecdote - I don't purport to speak for every hooker in the world!
As a matter of fact, I'd argue with the OP that hookers don't actually hate the guys that do this. I took one very attractive hooker from El Salvador out for dinner several weeks after our initial "rendevous" We got on very well in a social setting with no money or services exchanging hands at all. She obviously didn't hate me because I'd previously put some money her way to do the dirty or we wouldn't have met socially at a later date.
Of course, I realise this is an anecdote - I don't purport to speak for every hooker in the world!
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Original post by Harambulus
I find it strange why it is viewed this way though, because think of eating a meal. Soemtimes you cook yourself sometimes you go out and pay for a meal.
Exactly, sex is just another basic human need like eating or breathing. If anything, just be glad you have the disposable income to afford the luxury.
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