The Same Argument Every Single Day

im guessing you're arab
if not then dw bro im arab all arab parents are the same as yours
youre not alone ma friend

That sucks, sorry you have to go through that. Do they want to arrange your marriage? Or are they expecting you to just go out there and find someone to marry asap? If it's the latter, maybe you could try sitting down with them and explaining how love comes naturally, and that they can't just expect you to find a husband at your age. You mentioned that you've tried talking to them about your future plans, maybe you could go even further? Like, make a PowerPoint detailing what you want to do during your gap year and after... really make them see how serious you are about your future, and perhaps they'll realise that you aren't just planning on messing around. Good luck though x

Not really sure if I've got any useful advice, I can't imagine what it would be like to be in that situation; but just dropping in to say that I hope it all works out, I reckon if you persevere for long enough, they'll eventually give in.

@childofthesun?

(Sorry, you're the only other Arab Muslim girl I know here. )

Not really sure if I've got any useful advice, I can't imagine what it would be like to be in that situation; but just dropping in to say that I hope it all works out, I reckon if you persevere for long enough, they'll eventually give in.

Zacken beat me to it, as usual

Hang in there z

Thanks Ethane I'll try <3

A bunch of TSRians should come together and buy a house. Then we could all live there, debate Feminism, Islam and Brexit while circlejerking irl as opposed to on threads

Aww z33 I am always here if you need someone to talk to. I know the feeling of being 18, Muslim and wanting to let loose of the chains.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. This is the only practical advice I have for this situation:

<3 thanks!



yaaassssssss



Thank you gurl <3 it's so hard T_T



Thanks for all the tips! I'll be sure to change by approach. Sadly I don't have backups, I've never worked a job in my life and I'm a p**** but I'll try and work and earn and save as much as I can next year, and then try and get out for uni and map it out from there.

Thanks again!

sighhhhhhhhh

I swear every ****ing day I get into the same bloody argument with my parents I talk to them about my future and how I plan to spend my gap year and all I get is "you have to get married if you wanna travel the world and move out and do as you please"

like da*** I'm barely 18 yet why da*** would I get married now,

and secondly I ain't marrying no Arab Muslim guy they're (well most of them are) so ****ing closed minded I can't talk to someone like that let alone spend my life with them.
Like I'd rather stay celibate my entire life than have to marry one of them. Why can't I have my own life? Make my own decisions? Why does authority over me get passed down straight from my parents to my husband like when do I get to have MY say about MY life?

And as if arguing about that ain't enough,
all I get is "every other girl is getting married", "if you don't get married you're going to commit sin and sleep around", "if a girl says she doesn't wanna get married it means that she already has someone - who is it?", "why don't you wanna get married? who doesn't wanna get married?"

UGHEROGHOFJOIJASCOIJVKEAMNVOANSOIDJQOIWJFEORIJG

/rant

inb4 I regret this thread but it's pissing me off. How do I get it into their heads that just because I don't get married doesn't mean I'm gonna be a slut or get raped or any of that ******** ?
anyone been through anything similar?