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Jealous friend

Yesterday, my dad got the promotion at work he's always wanted. As he works in the public sector (and this is the top job at the Council) it was reported in the paper, along with a whole load of s*it about how much my dad will be earning.

When I spoke to a friend about it, he called us "new money" and said "money is always better when it's in the family". I disagreed saying "well at least my dad has earnt his money". I generally just got a real vibe of jealousy, there wasn't any "oohhhh thats great, congrats to ur dad!" (coz this job is like an ultimate career aspiration fulfilled) and I'm so so pleased for him, but my friend isn't the only jealous one. At my last exam today, I walked in to hear one of the girls saying "omfg have u seen how much matt's dad earns, its disgusting...my mum has to work so hard for 20k a year".

I just think it's so bang out, those sort of comments. I fckin hate jealousy like this, it's not like my dad doesn't deserve it.

Grrr rant overs!

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going back to the days of when i was bullied... u have to ignore them if they can't realise how hard yr dad has worked. at least yr happy
Reply 2
red_roadkill
Yesterday, my dad got the promotion at work he's always wanted. As he works in the public sector (and this is the top job at the Council) it was reported in the paper, along with a whole load of s*it about how much my dad will be earning.

When I spoke to a friend about it, he called us "new money" and said "money is always better when it's in the family". I disagreed saying "well at least my dad has earnt his money". I generally just got a real vibe of jealousy, there wasn't any "oohhhh thats great, congrats to ur dad!" (coz this job is like an ultimate career aspiration fulfilled) and I'm so so pleased for him, but my friend isn't the only jealous one. At my last exam today, I walked in to hear one of the girls saying "omfg have u seen how much matt's dad earns, its disgusting...my mum has to work so hard for 20k a year".

I just think it's so bang out, those sort of comments. I fckin hate jealousy like this, it's not like my dad doesn't deserve it.

Grrr rant overs!


Just say your dad works hard, and that you're pleased for him. Wd to your dad btw :top: :biggrin:
Reply 3
he has obviously worked a damn sight harder if he's making that much money. you don't get paid **** loads for being a lazy bum. you *do* however get paid £20k when you're a lazy sod or don't have any decent qualifications (as i found out on my gap year)
Reply 4
You can't really blame them for being jealous. - Everyone want's to earn lots of money, and live an expensive lifestyle. Though rather than wanting to bring your dad down, they should try to improve themselves. Hopefully this will pass soon.
Reply 5
Book
You can't really blame them for being jealous. - Everyone want's to earn lots of money, and live an expensive lifestyle. Though rather than wanting to bring your dad down, they should try to improve themselves. Hopefully this will pass soon.


Yeah, well I think I can blame them for jealousy, it's one of the worse personality features ever and achieves nothing other than bitterness. At the end of the day, the person ur jealous about could drop dead tomorrow...
Reply 6
red_roadkill
Yeah, well I think I can blame them for jealousy, it's one of the worse personality features ever and achieves nothing other than bitterness. At the end of the day, the person ur jealous about could drop dead tomorrow...

Exactly, but what I was refering to is that it CAN be force for good. I've heared that unlike in the UK, in America, if a poor person sees someone driving a Roles Royce, they tend to think "that could be me one day!". I guess what I mean by "beneficial jealousy" is that people are proud of the achievenemts of high flyers like your dad, and seeing it in frount of their face just crystalises the fact that we can all improve ourselves.

If people are wishing for bad on your dad, than I'm very sorry to hear this and this is horrible. - Do take good care of him, I'm gueasing he'll be feeling much worse than you. Good luck!
Reply 7
Book
Exactly, but what I was refering to is that it CAN be force for good. I've heared that unlike in the UK, in America, if a poor person sees someone driving a Roles Royce, they tend to think "that could be me one day!". I guess what I mean by "beneficial jealousy" is that people are proud of the achievenemts of high flyers like your dad, and seeing it in frount of their face just crystalises the fact that we can all improve ourselves.

If people are wishing for bad on your dad, than I'm very sorry to hear this and this is horrible. - Do take good care of him, I'm gueasing he'll be feeling much worse than you. Good luck!



Please don't get me started on that American Dream Bullsh it
Reply 8
Please start. I quite like debates...
Reply 9
I hate people who bitch about how much their parents don't earn. Neither of my parents rake it in, but that's cos neither went past A-Levels, they work their asses off but they know why, because they didn't work hard enough at my age. They don't bitch because someone else earns more. God I hate the socialists of this country, "oh, you shouldn't earn more than me, it's not fair", bugger off you lazy bastards!! Stop moaning about what you don't have and work towards something you want to have.
Reply 10
NikolaiJ
I hate people who bitch about how much their parents don't earn. Neither of my parents rake it in, but that's cos neither went past A-Levels, they work their asses off but they know why, because they didn't work hard enough at my age. They don't bitch because someone else earns more. God I hate the socialists of this country, "oh, you shouldn't earn more than me, it's not fair", bugger off you lazy bastards!! Stop moaning about what you don't have and work towards something you want to have.


Exactly!
Reply 11
I've lived with that jealousy a long time as my parents both earnt a good crust. But they worked bloody harder than anybody elses parents I know and as long as you are safe in that knowledge, don't let others bother you.

Their gossip is not worth the worry :smile:
Reply 12
NikolaiJ
I hate people who bitch about how much their parents don't earn. Neither of my parents rake it in, but that's cos neither went past A-Levels, they work their asses off but they know why, because they didn't work hard enough at my age. They don't bitch because someone else earns more. God I hate the socialists of this country, "oh, you shouldn't earn more than me, it's not fair", bugger off you lazy bastards!! Stop moaning about what you don't have and work towards something you want to have.


Oh dear, not another one of your rants against socialists. You know, you can get socialists that earn a lot nicholas. You seem to mistake socialism for comunism half the time. I don't resent people earning a lot, but it is my belief that people should help out others where it is reasonable and where they can.
Reply 13
Book
Please start. I quite like debates...


hmmm......

No. :smile:
Reply 14
red_roadkill
Yesterday, my dad got the promotion at work he's always wanted. As he works in the public sector (and this is the top job at the Council) it was reported in the paper, along with a whole load of s*it about how much my dad will be earning.

When I spoke to a friend about it, he called us "new money" and said "money is always better when it's in the family". I disagreed saying "well at least my dad has earnt his money". I generally just got a real vibe of jealousy, there wasn't any "oohhhh thats great, congrats to ur dad!" (coz this job is like an ultimate career aspiration fulfilled) and I'm so so pleased for him, but my friend isn't the only jealous one. At my last exam today, I walked in to hear one of the girls saying "omfg have u seen how much matt's dad earns, its disgusting...my mum has to work so hard for 20k a year".

I just think it's so bang out, those sort of comments. I fckin hate jealousy like this, it's not like my dad doesn't deserve it.

Grrr rant overs!

well done to your dad, your friend is a dick
Reply 15
kateington
Oh dear, not another one of your rants against socialists. You know, you can get socialists that earn a lot nicholas. You seem to mistake socialism for comunism half the time. I don't resent people earning a lot, but it is my belief that people should help out others where it is reasonable and where they can.

Pffff, Socialism, Communism, it's all the same ****, all leaves me a few pennies shorter at the end of the day.
Reply 16
NikolaiJ
Pffff, Socialism, Communism, it's all the same ****, all leaves me a few pennies shorter at the end of the day.


errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr no it's not and you know that! it doesn't leave you a few pennies shorter because you don't see past helping yourself!! Jealousy as descibed in the original post is not the same as socialism.
Reply 17
I hate that...you know what just ignore them,they are just jealous
Reply 18
red_roadkill
Yesterday, my dad got the promotion at work he's always wanted. As he works in the public sector (and this is the top job at the Council) it was reported in the paper, along with a whole load of s*it about how much my dad will be earning.

When I spoke to a friend about it, he called us "new money" and said "money is always better when it's in the family". I disagreed saying "well at least my dad has earnt his money". I generally just got a real vibe of jealousy, there wasn't any "oohhhh thats great, congrats to ur dad!" (coz this job is like an ultimate career aspiration fulfilled) and I'm so so pleased for him, but my friend isn't the only jealous one. At my last exam today, I walked in to hear one of the girls saying "omfg have u seen how much matt's dad earns, its disgusting...my mum has to work so hard for 20k a year".

I just think it's so bang out, those sort of comments. I fckin hate jealousy like this, it's not like my dad doesn't deserve it.

Grrr rant overs!


Personally I don't believe those people are worth your time. Just ignore them - they wanna be jealous and have a bad day - their problem. You don't need to care about those sorta people.

Congrats to your dad btw :smile:
I'm in a very fortunate situation as i have seen my family go from just my dad working in an RAF post right up to now where both parents work and are in well paid jobs. I say tihs is fortunate because i get to see the direct benefits of parents who earn more thna your 'average' person. I know what its like to have to buy sainsburys basics and asda smartprice but similarly we now shop at waitrose, and as such i can appreciate it so much more. I think that NikolaiJ's parents are definatly people who know how things work. I simiarly cannot stand it when people think they should get money for nothing. I have a good work ethic and it annoys me whne im at my part/time job on weekends and see people just moping around doing **** all and yet they still complain about how rubbish their pay is. People just dont know how lucky they are sometimes. My parents constantly remind me of that, How things could have been a lot worse if I'd been say born into a african family or something.

Anyhow that was slightly neither here-nor-there. on-topic, I think that everyone here is right in saying that your friends are obviously jealous that you're dad gets more money than their parents. Its just something you have to live with I gues,s they'll soon forget about it, its not the biggest thing in their lives, soon as 50-pences new song or J-hi's new album comes out the'll all run off to learn all the dance moves or whatever.

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