How many of you in relationships have kissed someone else?

i've kissed other people whilst in a relationship.
With my first boyfriend, i got drunk and made out with one of my best friends (we're both girls) and i thought it was no biggy. he wasn't happy. But he was a **** anyway.
With my current boyfriend, at our formal i kissed my ex boyfriends formal date (the one that was a **** lol). My current boyfriend didn't mind at all, he was just sad he missed it.
I think if you set down rules about it then it's ok. Like my current bf is totally happy with me kissing other girls, and i wouldn't mind if he kissed guys (although i really really can't see him doing it haha).

Are you sure this "friend" isnt you, OP?

I don't understand why it isn't cheating if it is with the same gender? Unless you/your boyfriend don't take gay relationships seriously, which would be quite small minded of you.

Nah I'm completely with you here. When I found out about a similar thing with my ex, it completely wrecked our relationship. Don't tell her, especially if he seriously intends to never do it again. Draw a line under it, and don't talk about it.

*ahem* Yeah, my 'mate' has this really nasty and embarrassing illness...

He says it hurts when I... I mean, he urinates.

Calm down, dear. I'm sure she just means kissing members of the same gender with no sexual intentions. I doubt it was meant as a slur.

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Yeah... I was told, and he was all apologetic and said he'd never ever do it again as he'd never felt more guilty about anything, and I said to him, "Actually, I wish you'd just not told me, because now I also feel awful and I don't know what to do."

Makes the other person feel so so bad. I still don't trust him fully, but I don't want to end it. Oh what a predicament.

No way! You know my mate did something proper bad. He, like, raped his mother. He says, you know, that she didnt actually oppose to his advances. But what are my, I mean his chances of getting off?

I know it wasn't meant as a slur, but I've never understood that thing. I do think that when normally highly posessive guys don't get jealous of their girlfriend and other girls, it is because they don't take lesbians seriously. I'm not really into girls, but I know if I kissed one I'd feel like a cheat.

I also don't understand why you would kiss someone you don't fancy, unless its either for money or out of pity.

I guess it's a bit different if you're kissing someone who is bi/gay, but I see no reason why two straight people kissing equates to cheating, unless like I said, there's sexual intent.

As to the reasons, well, as a friendly gesture? for a laugh? For example - there's plenty of rugby boys that fancy themselves unshockable at uni. They obviously hadn't met any squaddies. Draw your own conclusions from that! I certainly wouldn't feel like a cheat if I jokingly kissed one of my mates.