I don't want to spend Eid day with my family

This is related to Islam so I'm hoping for replies from Muslims (and also non-Muslims).

Ramadan has been a terrible month for me. I booked work off for the past 3 weeks because I thought I would need the time off. But I've started to regret that now and, long story short, I'm turning bonkers. Praying 5 times a day/reading the Q'uran hasn't helped because I'm fuming with anger (from the arguments I have had with my family), whilst performing the prayers.

I don't want to go through all of the details, but my family have said some pretty insulting things to me throughout the course of the month, they can't seem to keep my name out of their mouth. At every given opportunity they take the piss out of me and say things like "I don't know how your friends at uni can stand you" (after I talked back). Whenever I try to call them out for it, they act oblivious (especially my older brother) and can't seem to understand what all the insults is doing to me.

I can't stand my family (at this moment in time), and I sure as hell do not want to spend Eid with them. I plan on signing up for a 12 hour shift on Tuesday/Wednesday.

I'm just wondering whether any other Muslims hate spending Eid with their families, too? It has lost it's meaning over the years for me.

I'm a girl by the way.

This is related to Islam so I'm hoping for replies from Muslims (and also non-Muslims).

Ramadan has been a terrible month for me. I booked work off for the past 3 weeks because I thought I would need the time off. But I've started to regret that now and, long story short, I'm turning bonkers. Praying 5 times a day/reading the Q'uran hasn't helped because I'm fuming with anger (from the arguments I have had with my family), whilst performing the prayers.

I don't want to go through all of the details, but my family have said some pretty insulting things to me throughout the course of the month, they can't seem to keep my name out of their mouth. At every given opportunity they take the piss out of me and say things like "I don't know how your friends at uni can stand you" (after I talked back). Whenever I try to call them out for it, they act oblivious (especially my older brother) and can't seem to understand what all the insults is doing to me.

I can't stand my family (at this moment in time), and I sure as hell do not want to spend Eid with them. I plan on signing up for a 12 hour shift on Tuesday/Wednesday.

I'm just wondering whether any other Muslims hate spending Eid with their families, too? It has lost it's meaning over the years for me.

I'm a girl by the way.

This is related to Islam so I'm hoping for replies from Muslims (and also non-Muslims).

Ramadan has been a terrible month for me. I booked work off for the past 3 weeks because I thought I would need the time off. But I've started to regret that now and, long story short, I'm turning bonkers. Praying 5 times a day/reading the Q'uran hasn't helped because I'm fuming with anger (from the arguments I have had with my family), whilst performing the prayers.

I don't want to go through all of the details, but my family have said some pretty insulting things to me throughout the course of the month, they can't seem to keep my name out of their mouth. At every given opportunity they take the piss out of me and say things like "I don't know how your friends at uni can stand you" (after I talked back). Whenever I try to call them out for it, they act oblivious (especially my older brother) and can't seem to understand what all the insults is doing to me.

I can't stand my family (at this moment in time), and I sure as hell do not want to spend Eid with them. I plan on signing up for a 12 hour shift on Tuesday/Wednesday.

I'm just wondering whether any other Muslims hate spending Eid with their families, too? It has lost it's meaning over the years for me.

I'm a girl by the way.

You say this as if praying 5 times a day only happens in ramadan?

Maybe there's a distance between you and your family? Ask yourself why these arguments are happening.

Remember that you will only have one father and one mother ever, they would always want the best for you.

All families can be annoying trust me I know! There's usually some sort of argument before Iftar at my house. That's just life though. I can understand you don't feel up to spending such a special day feeling miserable etc. I usually spend my morning/afternoon with my family and then go out in the evening with a bunch of friends. Maybe you could do this too that way your spending some time with your family and looking forward to spending some time with friends. Obviously only do what works for you. If your family annoy you too much honestly I've found keeping quiet the only thing that works and keeps me calm afterall arguing etc only causes more stress.

Don't you go round relatives houses during Eid? If you do that would make it easier unless they take the piss out of you too....

Yep.

Yes, it is mainly during Ramadan that I pray regularly.

And it's not my parents who have been the cause of the arguments, it is mainly my siblings.

Obviously I have tried my best to stay calm/not wish bad things on them, but they never stop and think about what they're saying to/about me and I think that's where the problem lies...but what can you do. I guess Ramadan can sometimes bring out the worst in people. They've been bullying me all my life and I have put up with it, but it's only recently that I feel like I've had enough and I don't want to take anymore bull**** from them.

Yes, it is mainly during Ramadan that I pray regularly.

And it's not my parents who have been the cause of the arguments, it is mainly my siblings.

Obviously I have tried my best to stay calm/not wish bad things on them, but they never stop and think about what they're saying to/about me and I think that's where the problem lies...but what can you do. I guess Ramadan can sometimes bring out the worst in people. They've been bullying me all my life and I have put up with it, but it's only recently that I feel like I've had enough and I don't want to take anymore bull**** from them.

Shame you feel that way. You do realise though that Ramadhan is a spiritual cleansing and should bring out the best in people? It's sad that people don't realise Ramadhan isn't just about praying and when you can/can't eat. That period between Sehri and Iftar is also for not backbiting, getting jealous, getting angry or other negative emotions. Did you realise that perhaps this was a test of your strength in maintaining your calm and cool during those hours and that you failed?

To regain meaning again in this month, please look into the more chilled out side of Ramadhan that actually helps you get rid of character flaws and improve yourself as a person, not just for 4 weeks but long term.