Worrying dry patch
Basically since moving to University in Sheffield a year and a bit ago I've had barely any sexual contact with any girls and its really starting to get to me.
I'm a pretty confident bloke around the right people and usually make people laugh easily but I always feel like nobody takes me seriously at times. I suppose that comes with playing the joker.
I've been around plenty of girls at Uni but haven't really been interested in any enough to pursue anything and its really worrying me that I'm just stuck in a rut waiting for 'the one' when I should be making the most of Uni and trying to shag anything that moves to put it bluntly.
I hate talking to random people in clubs but I don't often meet new girls outside of clubs. My Uni course is really strange and its a real pain to meet and chat to new people as basically every module I do is with people on different courses who already know each other whereas I know nobody and its second year now!
Anyone got any advice for me? Could give you more details if necessary.
I'm a pretty confident bloke around the right people and usually make people laugh easily but I always feel like nobody takes me seriously at times. I suppose that comes with playing the joker.
I've been around plenty of girls at Uni but haven't really been interested in any enough to pursue anything and its really worrying me that I'm just stuck in a rut waiting for 'the one' when I should be making the most of Uni and trying to shag anything that moves to put it bluntly.
I hate talking to random people in clubs but I don't often meet new girls outside of clubs. My Uni course is really strange and its a real pain to meet and chat to new people as basically every module I do is with people on different courses who already know each other whereas I know nobody and its second year now!
Anyone got any advice for me? Could give you more details if necessary.
*Dry spell
I personally think it's a lot healthier to only have sex with people you love, but if you want to meet more people and make friends I suggest joining societies, clubs etc.
I personally think it's a lot healthier to only have sex with people you love, but if you want to meet more people and make friends I suggest joining societies, clubs etc.
There's nothing wrong with sleeping with lots of people if that's what you want to do - I mean it can be a lot of fun. However if you're thinking more in terms of relationships then you shouldn't feel like you have to be doing that to conform to someone else's expectations. I've seen a lot of people do that kind of stuff and I'm not convinced that they've always done it because they really want to. Stick to what you are comfortable with. No one should judge you on that 
. I feel similar to you and that's based on having had experience of both. If you're so inclined I really believe sex is more amazing when emotions are involved.
I know what you mean about people not taking you seriously. But I think if you're feeling that then it shows that you think about the world a bit more deeply than some would, and people would be able to get a sense of that in knowing you. You say that you've seen a lot of girls but haven't been interested yet in pursuing anything. That's really good. It makes a girl feel really a lot more special when you find the 'one' for you. It's great to have high standards because it stops you getting hurt. It's very rare that you'll find someone who ticks enough boxes for you to want to pursue anything so you certainly shouldn't be worried about not feeling this a lot. It's a very healthy attitude to take into the dating world.
It sounds like you want to have a meaningful connection so yes definitely better to not hook up in clubs if that is the case. Perhaps find societies and sports you can get involved in because they'll have socials where you'll be able to meet like minded people. Then you can also meet people through house parties etc and make lots of mutual friends that way. Don't be afraid to talk to people who already seem to know each other although I completely understand how intimidating that is. If you put yourself out there then people will be aware of you and invite you to various gatherings, and if you accept invitations they'll know you're interested and invite you to more. Do you get to meet many people outside your course? As an example I don't get to meet many people on mine because there isn't a lot of opportunity for actually interacting with people. This goes to show how helpful it is to branch out.
. I feel similar to you and that's based on having had experience of both. If you're so inclined I really believe sex is more amazing when emotions are involved. I know what you mean about people not taking you seriously. But I think if you're feeling that then it shows that you think about the world a bit more deeply than some would, and people would be able to get a sense of that in knowing you. You say that you've seen a lot of girls but haven't been interested yet in pursuing anything. That's really good. It makes a girl feel really a lot more special when you find the 'one' for you. It's great to have high standards because it stops you getting hurt. It's very rare that you'll find someone who ticks enough boxes for you to want to pursue anything so you certainly shouldn't be worried about not feeling this a lot. It's a very healthy attitude to take into the dating world.
It sounds like you want to have a meaningful connection so yes definitely better to not hook up in clubs if that is the case. Perhaps find societies and sports you can get involved in because they'll have socials where you'll be able to meet like minded people. Then you can also meet people through house parties etc and make lots of mutual friends that way. Don't be afraid to talk to people who already seem to know each other although I completely understand how intimidating that is. If you put yourself out there then people will be aware of you and invite you to various gatherings, and if you accept invitations they'll know you're interested and invite you to more. Do you get to meet many people outside your course? As an example I don't get to meet many people on mine because there isn't a lot of opportunity for actually interacting with people. This goes to show how helpful it is to branch out.
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I meet quite a few outside the course in terms of friends of friends and various house parties. Everyone just seems to stick to who they know at house parties though but I suppose I just need to make a bit more effort. I can't say I'm close to any girls at Uni either apart from my flatmates but its the opposite at home where I have many girl mates from school and college. I just really struggle going from meeting new people and having a chat to making friends with new people.
Original post by Anonymous
I meet quite a few outside the course in terms of friends of friends and various house parties. Everyone just seems to stick to who they know at house parties though but I suppose I just need to make a bit more effort. I can't say I'm close to any girls at Uni either apart from my flatmates but its the opposite at home where I have many girl mates from school and college. I just really struggle going from meeting new people and having a chat to making friends with new people.
I know what you mean. I feel the same sometimes. I guess you can only try your best and people will realise that you're a friendly/nice guy and want to get to know you more. Hope it goes well and you manage to meet more people
Was trying to think of more ideas for you and I was just going to say that it's good to go to social gatherings even if you don't feel like it because then you might surprise yourself and meet some interesting people. I have to say I'm in a similar situation myself. Most of my close friends I've made are in my hall of residence and I'm a bit clueless when it comes to other ways of meeting people. Maybe some other tsr people will have some ideas too
Original post by Anonymous
I meet quite a few outside the course in terms of friends of friends and various house parties. Everyone just seems to stick to who they know at house parties though but I suppose I just need to make a bit more effort. I can't say I'm close to any girls at Uni either apart from my flatmates but its the opposite at home where I have many girl mates from school and college. I just really struggle going from meeting new people and having a chat to making friends with new people.
Get them to wingman on nights out or get some close female friends at uni to socialise with in any other situation around OTHER women you dont know.
Women like to know what a guy is like without asking them and women who know you are the #1 best way of getting info about you.
"Yes he's single, quite a decent guy and makes me laugh a lot".
Also, stop being picky and get sexual experience.
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