I am getting really fed up with being single all the time. I have had confidence issues since I was a teen and I'm just starting to get some confidence back, but I'm still frustrated that I am 22 years old and I still can't manage to meet girls because my social life is non-existent. On the rare occasion that I do go out, I get envious of other guys who are either in relationships or can meet girls easily because they have a decent social life, whereas I can't meet anyone at the moment.
I don't want to sound too pessimistic, but I can't see myself meeting any girls at the moment, because I just don't have the ideal group of mates to meet girls. Most of my mates are either engaged, married (at 22, I know), or they're in the same situation as me in terms of meeting girls. On top of all this, I'm useless at chatting up girls and I get extremely nervous because I am not used to it at all (lacking experience).
Also, I feel insecure because I don't have a stable job or a degree/qualifications and I still live at home (with my father). I wish I was a charmer and a good conversationalist so I could chat to girls with ease, but I am a nervous wreck when girls are concerned. I think the problem is, I sometimes feel that I have nothing to offer a girl and I'm embarrassed of my situation, therefore I avoid talking to girls because I am insecure of my situation/issues.
I don't like dating sites as I cannot take good photos. I am not unattractive at all, but I just look a lot different in photos than I do in real life, and lets be honest, on dating sites first impressions matter most, that means "photos". I don't know what's wrong with me, but I also seem to feel that people are better than me because (as mentioned in the above paragraph) I am not in a situation that I'm happy with, neither do I have a good education, whereas lots of people are going to University or have a degree (it seems like!).
A lot of you may say "well sort out your situation/issues first" but I can't just move out and find a stable job, as the economy is tough right now and I am unemployed at the moment and have been for almost 12 months! Without a degree or decent/relevant qualifications It feels like I'll never find a decent job. When I'm in a job, I'm hard working and enthusiastic, but at the moment I just have no motivation because I cannot find a job. And there is no point in me going to University because I DO NOT have any idea of what I want to do with my life/career, so it's pointless to go to Uni and waste money.
I am overweight too, which makes me feel fat and self conscious, I.e. makes me lack confidence when meeting girls. But I am trying to lose weight and it's coming slowly but surely. But apart from weight loss, how do I gain my confidence, meet people, get a good social life, and start meeting girls?