Lonely in FINAL year of uni
Don't get me wrong in first year we had a big group of 20 of us, then slowly each year this group got smaller and now its just 5 of us girls in one house- I get on OK with those girls but I feel we're only friends because we lived next door to each other in halls- not because we get on particularly well. I just feel so lonely because during the holidays everyone from uni facebooks each other saying things like "I miss your face!!" (gosh I hate that saying!)
Even my housemates have made loads of other separate friends outside of our group-I've made a few but am not really part of any groups so it feels overwhelmingly lonely. Not sure what to do because I'll only have 4 months left of uni after exams in January and I'm going to try and 'throw myself' into societies and stuff but it just seems really futile. Plus I've just been super-bored this year and wanna positively remember my time at uni
Maybe I should keep off of facebook more!
Even my housemates have made loads of other separate friends outside of our group-I've made a few but am not really part of any groups so it feels overwhelmingly lonely. Not sure what to do because I'll only have 4 months left of uni after exams in January and I'm going to try and 'throw myself' into societies and stuff but it just seems really futile. Plus I've just been super-bored this year and wanna positively remember my time at uni
Maybe I should keep off of facebook more!
It's not too late to join societies and see what else is out there. However I'm in your position and I'm thankful for the quietness. Now I can actually get down and do some work without being interrupted every 5 minutes! It's a blessing in disguise, trust me!
Original post by umop apisdn
It's not too late to join societies and see what else is out there. However I'm in your position and I'm thankful for the quietness. Now I can actually get down and do some work without being interrupted every 5 minutes! It's a blessing in disguise, trust me!
thats a cool username, clever too
/offtopicOriginal post by F1Addict
thats a cool username, clever too /offtopic
/offtopicAw fanx.
Mate, your priorities seem a little... off. You're in your final year, I think when you look back from the future you're more likely to say, "I wish I hadn't spent time moping rather than buckling down" than, "I wish I'd made more mates."
Mates come and go, and I'm sure you'll find plenty once you start working and doing stuff as you get older. This is quite honestly your only chance at university, I'd stick to that.
I understand how you feel but it is 4 months.
Mates come and go, and I'm sure you'll find plenty once you start working and doing stuff as you get older. This is quite honestly your only chance at university, I'd stick to that.
I understand how you feel but it is 4 months.
I'm the EXACTLY the same, but yeah, only four months left. Keep in contact with whatever friends you have, you can meet some new people through them, but mostly just get through the last part of you degree. You'll have a compeltely different life after uni, with a different social circle.
In the mean time, do you have any close friends from your hometown? Personally, the people I've known the longest, even though we're all at different unis, mean the most to me. They'll most likely be the people you'll stay in touch with throughout life if you've known them that long.
In the mean time, do you have any close friends from your hometown? Personally, the people I've known the longest, even though we're all at different unis, mean the most to me. They'll most likely be the people you'll stay in touch with throughout life if you've known them that long.
Completely sympathise with this. I'm on a third-year placement at the moment so opportunities to get involved with stuff are pretty thin on the ground, and it's something which, to an extent, makes you live a different life to your friends for twelve months. I'm taking a break from my uni house for a bit, too.
Just concentrating on my degree for now - and the fact that my graduate opportunities are starting to look pretty ok as a result.
Just concentrating on my degree for now - and the fact that my graduate opportunities are starting to look pretty ok as a result.
Story of my life.
lol
lol
Original post by umop apisdn
Aw fanx.
I turned my laptop upside down to read your username and I could barely put it back down before my mind was blown.
sympathy for you. But this happens when our mind gets etched with the doctrine that our happiness lies in others' hands. We were never prepared for loneliness and we expected life to be joyful throughout. It is in your interest to get out of this as soon as possible. Your happiness is in your hands. Do you need to move in crowds to become happy? you will see that when you enjoy yourself, others will enjoy with you. Have the courage and expect some up and downs in life.
All the best and keep smiling!
All the best and keep smiling!
Original post by chemcam
sympathy for you. But this happens when our mind gets etched with the doctrine that our happiness lies in others' hands. We were never prepared for loneliness and we expected life to be joyful throughout. It is in your interest to get out of this as soon as possible. Your happiness is in your hands. Do you need to move in crowds to become happy? you will see that when you enjoy yourself, others will enjoy with you. Have the courage and expect some up and downs in life.
All the best and keep smiling!
All the best and keep smiling!
Despite how thoroughly depressing and soul crushing this post is, one can't help but feel that it's good for one to know this.
Original post by wanderlust.xx
Mate, your priorities seem a little... off. You're in your final year, I think when you look back from the future you're more likely to say, "I wish I hadn't spent time moping rather than buckling down" than, "I wish I'd made more mates."
Mates come and go, and I'm sure you'll find plenty once you start working and doing stuff as you get older. This is quite honestly your only chance at university, I'd stick to that.
I understand how you feel but it is 4 months.
Mates come and go, and I'm sure you'll find plenty once you start working and doing stuff as you get older. This is quite honestly your only chance at university, I'd stick to that.
I understand how you feel but it is 4 months.
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