People think I am Weird
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Original post by Elissabeth
Even other quiet people and those who share my interests dislike me 
Why? Are you the kind of kid that violently screams at everyone to like them? If not I'd say you need to go out and make your own social group.
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Original post by jreid1994
Why? Are you the kind of kid that violently screams at everyone to like them? If not I'd say you need to go out and make your own social group.
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No, not at all!
Easier said then done to just go and make a social group.
Original post by Elissabeth
No, not at all!
Easier said then done to just go and make a social group.
Easier said then done to just go and make a social group.
No
just go out meet new people, if you go out and go somewhere you enjoy going then you'll meet people who you have something in common with and then you create a social group for yourself. You live in London surely there's a lot to do there?Posted from TSR Mobile
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Original post by jreid1994
No just go out meet new people, if you go out and go somewhere you enjoy going then you'll meet people who you have something in common with and then you create a social group for yourself.
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just go out meet new people, if you go out and go somewhere you enjoy going then you'll meet people who you have something in common with and then you create a social group for yourself.Posted from TSR Mobile
But wouldn't people then question why you had come alone?
In a bar, for instance, a group would never start talking to you, I doubt? Plus, a girl alone may seem vulnerable, I don't know.
I've been to groups I'm interested in like St Johns, but I was just treated the same as anywhere, assumptions made about me that I'm a teetotal, goody-two-shoes, boring Christian (I am none of those things btw), so they didn't invite me to the socials or make friends with me.
Original post by Elissabeth
But wouldn't people then question why you had come alone?
No, that the point I'm getting at you can't meet people unless you go out and grab life for what it is, by the horns. If they question just say I want to meet new people.
Original post by Elissabeth
In a bar, for instance, a group would never start talking to you, I doubt? Plus, a girl alone may seem vulnerable, I don't know.
In a bar, for instance, a group would never start talking to you, I doubt? Plus, a girl alone may seem vulnerable, I don't know.
no, they wouldn't that's why you talk to them
just be a little confident and watch the groups actions and see if you would fit in, watch and listen to the conversations they have for 5-10 mins and jump in if they seem like your kind of crowd , as for being vulnerable everyone is if they let themselves be a 6"6 bodybuilder could be vulnerable if he had 0 confidence.Also avoid bars, the kind of people that go to bars aren't people you want to be friends with :/
Original post by Elissabeth
I've been to groups I'm interested in like St Johns, but I was just treated the same as anywhere, assumptions made about me that I'm a teetotal, goody-two-shoes, boring Christian (I am none of those things btw), so they didn't invite me to the socials or make friends with me.
I've been to groups I'm interested in like St Johns, but I was just treated the same as anywhere, assumptions made about me that I'm a teetotal, goody-two-shoes, boring Christian (I am none of those things btw), so they didn't invite me to the socials or make friends with me.
I'm not too sure :/ isn't st John's a ambulance thing? I volunteer at a children's hospital and I make goodie two shoes assumptions myself sometimes, unfortunately we can't help it. I'm not too sure what kind of person you exactly are but I do have a kind of idea. are but people do jump the gun very quickly about other people sometimes if I wear a tracksuit to college, because I sound common people assume I'm a CHAV some people
. people are only as intelligent and as open minded as they let themselves be. And to be honest society don't like nice people anymore, as society takes and don't value giving, unless it benefits them. unfortunately society's moral compass is heading very south. But whatever you do, no matter what, please don't change for other people, people like you are very much needed in a society like this.
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Original post by jreid1994
No, that the point I'm getting at you can't meet people unless you go out and grab life for what it is, by the horns. If they question just say I want to meet new people.
no, they wouldn't that's why you talk to them just be a little confident and watch the groups actions and see if you would fit in, watch and listen to the conversations they have for 5-10 mins and jump in if they seem like your kind of crowd , as for being vulnerable everyone is if they let themselves be a 6"6 bodybuilder could be vulnerable if he had 0 confidence.
Also avoid bars, the kind of people that go to bars aren't people you want to be friends with :/
I'm not too sure :/ isn't st John's a ambulance thing? I volunteer at a children's hospital and I make goodie two shoes assumptions myself sometimes, unfortunately we can't help it. I'm not too sure what kind of person you exactly are but I do have a kind of idea. are but people do jump the gun very quickly about other people sometimes if I wear a tracksuit to college, because I sound common people assume I'm a CHAV some people. people are only as intelligent and as open minded as they let themselves be.
And to be honest society don't like nice people anymore, as society takes and don't value giving, unless it benefits them. unfortunately society's moral compass is heading very south. But whatever you do, no matter what, please don't change for other people, people like you are very much needed in a society like this.
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no, they wouldn't that's why you talk to them
just be a little confident and watch the groups actions and see if you would fit in, watch and listen to the conversations they have for 5-10 mins and jump in if they seem like your kind of crowd , as for being vulnerable everyone is if they let themselves be a 6"6 bodybuilder could be vulnerable if he had 0 confidence.Also avoid bars, the kind of people that go to bars aren't people you want to be friends with :/
I'm not too sure :/ isn't st John's a ambulance thing? I volunteer at a children's hospital and I make goodie two shoes assumptions myself sometimes, unfortunately we can't help it. I'm not too sure what kind of person you exactly are but I do have a kind of idea. are but people do jump the gun very quickly about other people sometimes if I wear a tracksuit to college, because I sound common people assume I'm a CHAV some people
. people are only as intelligent and as open minded as they let themselves be. And to be honest society don't like nice people anymore, as society takes and don't value giving, unless it benefits them. unfortunately society's moral compass is heading very south. But whatever you do, no matter what, please don't change for other people, people like you are very much needed in a society like this.
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1) Wouldn't they just say 'why don't you have any friends?' Sooooo embarrassing when people ask that.
2) Whats wrong with going to bars? Its what people do isn't it? I AM NOT a goody-two shoes Christian freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot emphasise that enough!
3) I really don't know how to get rid of the assumption. I'd prefer people thought I was a chav, frankly! I've considered getting piercings and tattoos in the past, just because this might work, but it could backfire, make it harder to get jobs etc.
Original post by Elissabeth
Hello,
Any advice would be appreciated,
I really don't know how to stop people thinking I am weird; since I don't know what it is about me that makes them think this in the first place
.
I mean I don't have an outlandish dress sense, extreme views or really unusual hobbies or anything like that (btw I mean no offence to anyone who does)
I am quiet and reserved, but why does that make me weird??? I just don't get it.
This is really getting me down, as people just avoid me totally.
Any advice would be appreciated,
I really don't know how to stop people thinking I am weird; since I don't know what it is about me that makes them think this in the first place
.I mean I don't have an outlandish dress sense, extreme views or really unusual hobbies or anything like that (btw I mean no offence to anyone who does)
I am quiet and reserved, but why does that make me weird??? I just don't get it.
This is really getting me down, as people just avoid me totally.
Original post by Elissabeth
1) Wouldn't they just say 'why don't you have any friends?' Sooooo embarrassing when people ask that.
Just say I want to meet different people
Original post by Elissabeth
2) Whats wrong with going to bars? Its what people do isn't it? I AM NOT a goody-two shoes Christian freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot emphasise that enough!
2) Whats wrong with going to bars? Its what people do isn't it? I AM NOT a goody-two shoes Christian freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot emphasise that enough!
Yes, but not to make friends!! And as for the not being good, what's wrong with that? There is barely any good people left in this world because of how screwed up its becoming.
I hate People who think they need to be dicks to be cool, to be honest the person could be borderline insane and if he/she were nice enough I'd be friends with them as long as they didn't abuse my trust, please, please OP don't change yourself just to suit this effed up society.
Original post by Elissabeth
3) I really don't know how to get rid of the assumption. I'd prefer people thought I was a chav, frankly! I've considered getting piercings and tattoos in the past, just because this might work, but it could backfire, make it harder to get jobs etc.
3) I really don't know how to get rid of the assumption. I'd prefer people thought I was a chav, frankly! I've considered getting piercings and tattoos in the past, just because this might work, but it could backfire, make it harder to get jobs etc.
Don't get rid of it, I'd rather meet someone whose nice polite and kind and be a little "boring"(no one is ever boring) than some moron who thinks that partying their 20s away through drugs and alcohol is cool when in fact if you think about it they are boring little child like sheep who think they have to do what everyone else does!!!!!! Don't change!
No, please don't get tattoos and piercings just to make friends, or act like the average thug like a real CHAV is like either, anyone can do this, don't make you big cool or popular, just means you become even more lonely as the people your meeting aren't suitable for you, look it takes a better person not to change for others than it does to have to be yourself and be alone. By the way, which uni do you go to?
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Original post by sonnet26
People's perspective of what's weird and what's okay differs. They think you're weird because you don't act like them. I think you're okay.
This. Society generally, especially the pack mentality you tend to get in some peer groups is afraid of anything that deviates from the norm slightly. So if you don't like getting wasted constantly, that can be seen as weird. I generally am a lot more comfortable talking to guys than girls, (except other straight talking girls - just can't do the whole 'suuup babes' thing seriously!) and some people think that's weird. But what the hell. Just make friends with others that are considered slightly 'different', (and no not necessarily talking about manga geeks emos and the like), more than likely you will somehow be drawn to each other! Most of my closest friendships and a rleationship happened that way!
Chin up and stay true to yourself, cheesy as that sounds. I promise, if you try and expand your horizons between the narrow minded group it sounds like you are currently socialising with you will be a lot happier and feel accepted.
Original post by Elissabeth
Even other quiet people and those who share my interests dislike me
I know this sounds really stupid, but if you don't dress differently, or do anything you perceive as weird could it be just an aura you give off perhaps. I'm pretty shy and tend to shun big social situations where there are a lot of people I don't know well, although once i'm comfortable with someone I totally chill out completely. However when around people even that I know, just not extremely well, and people whose opinion of me I care about sometimes I can just feel like i'm awkward making conversations or overthink things and mix up my words and stuff which must come across as weird. Maybe its inadvertently the way you interact with others? Could it come across a bit standoffish even if you don't mean it to?
Original post by Elissabeth
Hello,
Any advice would be appreciated,
I really don't know how to stop people thinking I am weird; since I don't know what it is about me that makes them think this in the first place.
I mean I don't have an outlandish dress sense, extreme views or really unusual hobbies or anything like that (btw I mean no offence to anyone who does)
I am quiet and reserved, but why does that make me weird??? I just don't get it.
This is really getting me down, as people just avoid me totally.
Any advice would be appreciated,
I really don't know how to stop people thinking I am weird; since I don't know what it is about me that makes them think this in the first place
.I mean I don't have an outlandish dress sense, extreme views or really unusual hobbies or anything like that (btw I mean no offence to anyone who does)
I am quiet and reserved, but why does that make me weird??? I just don't get it.
This is really getting me down, as people just avoid me totally.
gurl you need to be yourself because yolo
Original post by XCbaby
I know this sounds really stupid, but if you don't dress differently, or do anything you perceive as weird could it be just an aura you give off perhaps. I'm pretty shy and tend to shun big social situations where there are a lot of people I don't know well, although once i'm comfortable with someone I totally chill out completely. However when around people even that I know, just not extremely well, and people whose opinion of me I care about sometimes I can just feel like i'm awkward making conversations or overthink things and mix up my words and stuff which must come across as weird. Maybe its inadvertently the way you interact with others? Could it come across a bit standoffish even if you don't mean it to?
but standoffish doesn't automatically equal 'weird', does it?
Original post by XCbaby
This. Society generally, especially the pack mentality you tend to get in some peer groups is afraid of anything that deviates from the norm slightly. So if you don't like getting wasted constantly, that can be seen as weird. I generally am a lot more comfortable talking to guys than girls, (except other straight talking girls - just can't do the whole 'suuup babes' thing seriously!) and some people think that's weird. But what the hell. Just make friends with others that are considered slightly 'different', (and no not necessarily talking about manga geeks emos and the like), more than likely you will somehow be drawn to each other! Most of my closest friendships and a rleationship happened that way!
Chin up and stay true to yourself, cheesy as that sounds. I promise, if you try and expand your horizons between the narrow minded group it sounds like you are currently socialising with you will be a lot happier and feel accepted.
Chin up and stay true to yourself, cheesy as that sounds. I promise, if you try and expand your horizons between the narrow minded group it sounds like you are currently socialising with you will be a lot happier and feel accepted.
I'm not currently really socialising with anyone though and like i said even a group of 'nerdy awkward-ish manga geeks' would find me really weird.
I'd love to go out drinking and be part of mainstream society!
It isn't because I don't want to, its because I don't get invited!
Original post by x I'm a Slug x
gurl you need to be yourself because yolo
Heh, being myself has made me completely miserable with no friends and no future, no nothing!
Original post by jreid1994
No just go out meet new people, if you go out and go somewhere you enjoy going then you'll meet people who you have something in common with and then you create a social group for yourself. You live in London surely there's a lot to do there?
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just go out meet new people, if you go out and go somewhere you enjoy going then you'll meet people who you have something in common with and then you create a social group for yourself. You live in London surely there's a lot to do there?Posted from TSR Mobile
Currently in sheffield where I go to uni.
If I go to the cinema, for example, I doubt I'd meet people and people would think I was a freak for going alone.
Or as I like animals, it would probably be a bit weird, an adult going to the zoo alone, maybe?
What kind of things do you think I could do where I would meet people?
Original post by Elissabeth
Currently in sheffield where I go to uni.
If I go to the cinema, for example, I doubt I'd meet people and people would think I was a freak for going alone.
Or as I like animals, it would probably be a bit weird, an adult going to the zoo alone, maybe?
What kind of things do you think I could do where I would meet people?
If I go to the cinema, for example, I doubt I'd meet people and people would think I was a freak for going alone.
Or as I like animals, it would probably be a bit weird, an adult going to the zoo alone, maybe?
What kind of things do you think I could do where I would meet people?
If you don't think your the pisshead kind of person, good! Keep it that way
museums are good. Zoos, ummm... Yeah, I'd say they're more of an arranged idea but down to you libraries you meet interesting people if you like books Gym if your into exercising, any sports your curious of trying or social event you think you would like to join in with really.
Look hard enough and you'll find likeminded people, you just need to find out what you like first
Honestly nobody but a complete asshat would think that your a freak for going out alone okay?
You over analyse things, I think instead of thinking "but what if this happens, everyone will think this wouldn't they?" Honestly they wouldn't. In my opinion, you should just do what makes you feel better without the need for what other people might think it would make you much happier.Posted from TSR Mobile
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Original post by Elissabeth
Hello,
Any advice would be appreciated,
I really don't know how to stop people thinking I am weird; since I don't know what it is about me that makes them think this in the first place.
I mean I don't have an outlandish dress sense, extreme views or really unusual hobbies or anything like that (btw I mean no offence to anyone who does)
I am quiet and reserved, but why does that make me weird??? I just don't get it.
This is really getting me down, as people just avoid me totally.
Any advice would be appreciated,
I really don't know how to stop people thinking I am weird; since I don't know what it is about me that makes them think this in the first place
.I mean I don't have an outlandish dress sense, extreme views or really unusual hobbies or anything like that (btw I mean no offence to anyone who does)
I am quiet and reserved, but why does that make me weird??? I just don't get it.
This is really getting me down, as people just avoid me totally.
Unless you're massively weird I probably wouldn't worry. Ignore them. I like weird/quirky people, they're interesting. Be yourself, meet people, make friends. Those people will be much better friends to you than people who will judge you for being "weird".
Ok, haven't read the whole thread but what is it that you think makes people think you're weird?
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Original post by Elissabeth
1) Wouldn't they just say 'why don't you have any friends?' Sooooo embarrassing when people ask that.
2) Whats wrong with going to bars? Its what people do isn't it? I AM NOT a goody-two shoes Christian freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot emphasise that enough!
3) I really don't know how to get rid of the assumption. I'd prefer people thought I was a chav, frankly! I've considered getting piercings and tattoos in the past, just because this might work, but it could backfire, make it harder to get jobs etc.
2) Whats wrong with going to bars? Its what people do isn't it? I AM NOT a goody-two shoes Christian freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot emphasise that enough!
3) I really don't know how to get rid of the assumption. I'd prefer people thought I was a chav, frankly! I've considered getting piercings and tattoos in the past, just because this might work, but it could backfire, make it harder to get jobs etc.
Firstly, Miss (I assume you're female. If not, do forgive me.
), there's nothing wrong with being a goody two-shoes. They're people and cool, as such, just like anybody else.I swear I, personally, prefer them to the drunk, slutty types that are so common these days.
Next, PLEASE, don't do that. Don't get pierced and tattoed just to shed your image. From what you sound like, it doesn't sound like you as a person. It will just lead to unhappiness, Miss.
That would be impulsive.
Please don't do things just to grab attention or get people around you. That's what led to the "Tampon Girl." :/
Don't settle for just "anybody", simply to have people around you. That won't make you happy, I think. That will not solve the problem. So, for the moment, be strong and hang in there, yeah?
I say, stop for a second...and think.
You say you aren't weird or have any unusual interests or whatever?
Good, well, then,
Think about what your interests really are, what things you like, what kind of life you'd like to live, what kind or person you are, what kind of person you'd like to be and finally about the the kind of people you'd want around you. Think about what makes you happy.
Try and define some of these things as clearly as you can.
Don't be desperate for people to like you.
First, I guess, try and like yourself. Self-Love and Confidence, not narcissism, goes a long way.
Forgive me, but sometimes, you sounded a little tough on yourself and the fact that you'd consider getting pierced just for people tells me you're low on some self-esteem.
Well, listen up, Miss. You shouldn't be.
I don't know you, Miss, but know this: You are a Wonderful Person.
Once you figure that out, people will come of their own.
Original post by jreid1994
If you don't think your the pisshead kind of person, good! Keep it that way museums are good. Zoos, ummm... Yeah, I'd say they're more of an arranged idea but down to you libraries you meet interesting people if you like books
Gym if your into exercising, any sports your curious of trying or social event you think you would like to join in with really.
Look hard enough and you'll find likeminded people, you just need to find out what you like first
Honestly nobody but a complete asshat would think that your a freak for going out alone okay? You over analyse things, I think instead of thinking "but what if this happens, everyone will think this wouldn't they?" Honestly they wouldn't. In my opinion, you should just do what makes you feel better without the need for what other people might think it would make you much happier.
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museums are good. Zoos, ummm... Yeah, I'd say they're more of an arranged idea but down to you libraries you meet interesting people if you like books Gym if your into exercising, any sports your curious of trying or social event you think you would like to join in with really.
Look hard enough and you'll find likeminded people, you just need to find out what you like first
Honestly nobody but a complete asshat would think that your a freak for going out alone okay?
You over analyse things, I think instead of thinking "but what if this happens, everyone will think this wouldn't they?" Honestly they wouldn't. In my opinion, you should just do what makes you feel better without the need for what other people might think it would make you much happier.Posted from TSR Mobile
I used to drink massively - I thought it gave me confidence and it did- but it caused so many other problems I had to drastically cut my intake.
I never made any REAL friends through alcohol though.
I got the sack from several part-time jobs because of my drinking.
I still revert to it in times of stress, not good I know, but can't you see the irony of people thinking I'm some dweeb when I used to be borderline-alcoholic actually. Still smoke cigarrettes as well, when I can afford it.
Old habits indeed die hard.
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