How to tell if someone is gay.

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Please don't approach him directly to ask him for his sexual orientation, because if he's straight, he would undergo severe traumatic depression and avoid you for as long as he can remember this incident. You're much better asking around (common friends, for example, but this might lead to the same result); stalking him probably isn't wise either.

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Fluent in Lies

They walk with a hobble.

Reply 22

icedout

johnnysgirl

pride in appearence
keen interest in fashion
sensitive/ in touch with feelings/intelligent

Please. Don't even try to establish a link between intelligence and sexual deviance. :rolleyes:

Wear pink?

johnnysgirl

True, you cannot generalize. I have several gay, lesbian and bi friends though and I go to gay clubs/ pubs quite a bit too, and I think

body language
effeminate gestures
hugs
pride in appearence
keen interest in fashion
sensitive/ in touch with feelings/intelligent
close to/ appreciative of women
sometimes crude/ smutty in a playful way

are all things that come to mind when I think of my gay friends, past and present. I don't intend to generalize or stereotype; that is just true at least for my mates. Hope it helps.

I know someone like that - he's straight as a flagpole.

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minimo

Original post by Fluent &#953

Wear pink?

Again lots of straight guys wear pink shirts (and chinos!!!), which I think is very shweeet.

Reply 26

Fluent in Lies

Yeah but they're all gay really.

Reply 27

minimo

No they're not. Hmpf. I like pink shirts and chinos.

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Stefan_M

Unless the person wears a big "I am gay" sign I do not think that you can always tell if someone is gay. The reason being is that I know a couple of gay men who you would not think were gay, since they are very mascunline, which goes agaisnt the "stereotypical" values of being gay that means one is very effeminiate. In saying this I feel that one can make assertions with some gay men, since they may act very "camp" and "effeminate," but in saying this you cannot always assume that as one is acting "camp" and "effeminate" then they are ultimately gay, since they may just be in touch with their emotions and so forth.

Let us know what you decide to do and best of luck :smile:

Reply 29

Fluent in Lies

minimo

No they're not. Hmpf. I like pink shirts and chinos.

Gayo!

Reply 30

minimo

Oh shut yer face. You always struck me as rather effeminate :p:

Reply 31

Dalimyr

MagikGuy

Unless the person wears a big "I am gay" sign I do not think that you can always tell if someone is gay.

Now that would make it so much easier :biggrin:

Reply 32

Fluent in Lies

minimo

Oh shut yer face. You always struck me as rather effeminate :p:

Why thank you :smile:

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minimo

Original post by Fluent &#953

Why thank you :smile:

Effeminate is nice :smile:

Reply 34

Fluent in Lies

I think so. It doesn't get the girls but I guess you can't have everything.

Reply 35

Dalimyr

Original post by Fluent &#953

I think so. It doesn't get the girls but I guess you can't have everything.

You could always try and get a guy :wink:

Join the LGBTsoc instead of just spamming there :biggrin:

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Fluent in Lies

I don't like guy's they're too 'boysterous [sic]'.

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woeful_infatuation

i have a gay friend.. she's inclined to women and before my other firned told me she was bi i would never have guessed.. she doens tact any different than my staright friend except she likes girls lol;-)
so i'd agree that there really isnt a "way to be" which tells ppl ur gay..

just ask around if he ahs a girlfriend n say u saw him with soemgirl or something.. then u shold have a rough idea and i hope for the best.. good luck with that;-)

Reply 38

Dalimyr

Original post by Fluent &#953

I don't like guy's they're too 'boysterous [sic]'.

Fair enough. All the more for me, then :p:

Reply 39

Lush Law

Unless someone is basically just really camp and thus blatantly gay, it can be very difficult to tell.

As a gay man I have learnt to observe quite closely and can now often tell that someone is gay even though they may not appear so to a straight person. Look closely at someone's body language, the way they express themselves. I'm gay but I don't have a high pitched, camp voice, but people have often said to me that they could only tell once they actually got talking to me ie so I appear gay in the way I express myself.

Often you can ascertain whether someone is gay by conversation topics as well, but then don't generalise too much and assume that just because someone is gay they will automatically have a love for fashion or whatever.

Also you can't really say that the likelihood of someone being gay is increased by an apparent 'good' fashion sense; because a lot of men are very trendy and like to be well groomed. Often it is the way that people put clothes together, rather than items of clothing themselves, which give it away.