I feel that I'm only physically attracted to females of a "higher level" than me.

I get on well with them. I just wouldn't like to have them as my partners. And so I'm racist.

Ok, I see your point. Maybe it is not a 'natural' feeling per se, maybe it could have been affected by social perception and environmental factors. But at the end of the day, my feelings currently are that I have never been personally attracted to any person of african descent, would it not be logical to conclude that I am unattracted to them? Does it really make me racist?

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Of course you're not physically attracted to them, you've grown up in a society where people of African descent are rarely, if ever, presented as "attractive" or "rich" or "glamorous".

It's not a "natural feeling", it's a conditioned feeling.

It's kind of like when girls say that they like getting bikini waxes, and that they "do it for themselves", and that "it's just my preference". No, it's not a preference. It's painful and expensive and unnecessary. It's not a preference, it's something that you feel obliged to do.

(Obviously this whole "my deeply ingrained racist preferences are natural" shebang isn't something you feel obliged to do, and I know my example above isn't really a good one, but it's the only thing I can think of now.)

I used to be just like you, though. I was really angry at first, too. Then, I calmed down and thought about it for a few days and painfully realised that, yes, I have internalised racism and started to view non-whites as "other people", as people not really that worthy of being my potential partners or whatever. And that was hard to accept, too.

Nobody is saying that you have to go out and start dating every African person ever. However, it is important to realise that your "natural preferences" are probably not "natural" at all. They're a social thing.

Please read this. It says it much better than me.

I'm not racist. I don't find Asian men attractive and that's my preference. Don't shift your previous racist mind to me, I'm not like you.

The big essay? Yes.

If I said "White girls are ugly." versus "I don't find white girls attractive.", can you see the difference? The former is an insult and assertion of opinion as fact, whereas the latter is simply an opinion.

Of course you're not actively, intentionally racist (at least, I hope not ) — what I was trying to say, though, is that this isn't really a normal way to look at people. I mean, if we lived in a world where "race" was given literally no significance at all (in the sense that people cared about race as much as they care about shoe size [ie not at all]), then nobody would think this way. It's only because of, well, weird societal things that a lot of people feel the need to say "I don't like X race, I just don't find them attractive. This is totally normal, though. It's just a natural preference."

That is really strange. I don't understand why anyone would have that opinion. I think unfortunately, a lot of people assume "fresh" asian guys are representative of everyone when they are not. (I'm assuming you know what I mean by "fresh")

I have preferences too. I prefer Asian guys, because I like dark hair. But like you if I found someone of a different race attractive, that wouldn't matter.

I mean I don't particularly like blondes. That doesn't mean I think all blondes are ugly and hobos

Yes. And I said that because I find them unattractive. So?

Surely even the second one is racist, though. It's not exactly normal to rule out massive, massive groups of people purely based on their skin colour.

I never rejected a person in a nasty manner. And I would never ever tell a guy how I feel about other races or controversial issues like these, I say stuff like that to my friends/people I'm comfortable with/people on the internet.

I get what you mean though. But I'm 100% sure that those guys rejected me because of my lack of bedroom skills - it was quite obvious.

The big essay? Yes.

I'm a mix of Asian, Black and Caucasian. I get on with every single race. I've got family and friends from all over the world. I don't consider myself racist and I don't see other races as minorities or not good enough - you know, since I'm a bit of everything.

You can say what you want but I'm not racist. I don't find Asian men attractive and that's my preference. Don't shift your previous racist mind to me, I'm not like you.

And with this, I'm going to leave because this is getting boring.

True. But this is the internet, people are bound to say exactly how they feel. I just happen to be like that even outside the internet which gets me in trouble but I don't see why I should be different on here



Well I know that's not entirely true because I've been hit on by asians but you are right they might not find me attractive. And I'm perfectly fine with that because.... I don't find them attractive

Yea, but just like that blog you posted, a person that rules out massive groups of people can do so despite being left leaning and open-minded. It's racist yes, but there's nothing you can do about it, just like the author said.

I believe the issue here is that you stated it as fact rather than opinion - maybe 'in my opinion Asian guys shouldn't...' would have been better and caused less disturbance.

Eastern European. Grew up in a racist environment didn't help matters I guess.

Saying that, even here in Britain, with terrorism and the way pakistanis are conveyed in the media as backwards impoverished people is not helping matters. Unlike the blacks, who have the whole big cock/hip-hop r n b culture going for them. So are seen as sexy as result.

If you are a freshy the accent goes against you.

It's interesting you are into asian men, honestly, I never would have thought so - then again due to the way I was brought up and the racism we have experienced as a community, I always expect us to be lower in the food chain when it comes to dating interracially.

It makes me sad to think that I could be seen as racist as I value equality very highly. I treat everyone with respect, and I think I would need to have a deep think about this.

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No I agree, the media portrays Pakistanis very badly. It's ridiculous.

I really don't think so, as I said I find Asians attractive. My ex was also Asian. I don't know why some of the negative stereotypes are there

When you dated your first asian guy, did it ever cross your mind he was asian and that you shouldn't be doing it?