Don't fit in/not very sociable and it saddens me.
I'm 17 and never really felt like I fit in. It's weird because I'm shy and bubbly at the same time. I think I was really bubbly before but then I got bullied and as I was very sensitive it kind of made me become an introvert and very wary of people. I also remember going to 2 parties in year 8 and 9 and being left out and excluded. After the bullying worsened I moved to another school which was much smaller. When I first joined I guess the 'popular girls' wanted me to be in their group. So at first I was invited to lots of parties and that but then one guy in my year was friends with the bullies in my previous school so decided to try and ruin my life in this new school. I also did find the 'popular' group a little b*tchy and I hate b*tching so wasn't that comfortable.
I would say that on a whole though even though I wasn't in the 'popular' group anymore I was still generally liked by most people because they thought I was funny and I was quite bubbly & liked to laugh.
I fell into depression last year however and it got so bad I had to leave sixth form in December. My parents wanted a fresh start for me so I started at a new sixth form this September.
There are a lot more people and I found it very very difficult to get comfortable at first. People couldn't get a word out of me because I barely talked and isolated myself in the library. However I've come out of my shell a bit more and still laugh a lot & make others laugh & a little more bubbly.
Yet, I have no social networks (I didn't like them because I experienced bad bullying on them) but I was surfing them the other day and felt really down. All my classmates had multiple pictures of them at loads of parties or just out everywhere. I go to friends houses sometimes or town once in a while but I haven't gone to a party in years. I'm mainly comfortable at home. I feel like I've wasted my teenage years. Why can't I be normal like other teens? Going out to parties or going out a lot/very sociable living their life to the full? I also hate texting, so have very few contacts on my phone, yet many of my classmates text multitudes of people.
Does anyone else feel like this? I was supposed to be going to uni next year but going the year after now so I'll be 19 and that's practically my teen years over :/
I would say that on a whole though even though I wasn't in the 'popular' group anymore I was still generally liked by most people because they thought I was funny and I was quite bubbly & liked to laugh.
I fell into depression last year however and it got so bad I had to leave sixth form in December. My parents wanted a fresh start for me so I started at a new sixth form this September.
There are a lot more people and I found it very very difficult to get comfortable at first. People couldn't get a word out of me because I barely talked and isolated myself in the library. However I've come out of my shell a bit more and still laugh a lot & make others laugh & a little more bubbly.
Yet, I have no social networks (I didn't like them because I experienced bad bullying on them) but I was surfing them the other day and felt really down. All my classmates had multiple pictures of them at loads of parties or just out everywhere. I go to friends houses sometimes or town once in a while but I haven't gone to a party in years. I'm mainly comfortable at home. I feel like I've wasted my teenage years. Why can't I be normal like other teens? Going out to parties or going out a lot/very sociable living their life to the full? I also hate texting, so have very few contacts on my phone, yet many of my classmates text multitudes of people.
Does anyone else feel like this? I was supposed to be going to uni next year but going the year after now so I'll be 19 and that's practically my teen years over :/
I think what you are doing wrong now is comparing your life to other people. Not everybody has to go to lots of parties and hang out in big groups to have a good social life. I've never been to a party, mainly because I wasn't really in that crowd at school, I preferred to have a few good friends then lots of fake ones and I only really speak to about 2 people in contacts 
At the end of the day you are not 18 yet so your teenage years are hardly over, people say their best years are at university, here you will meet new people and make lots of friends if you make the effort. I'm on a gap year starting university next year at 19 and I don't see why that would be a problem. If you want to go out more the just make more plans with your current friends
At the end of the day you are not 18 yet so your teenage years are hardly over, people say their best years are at university, here you will meet new people and make lots of friends if you make the effort. I'm on a gap year starting university next year at 19 and I don't see why that would be a problem. If you want to go out more the just make more plans with your current friends
PM me, i was in similar position to you, maybe i can give advice
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Adolescence really is a b***ard. I used to feel like you, though I've never been an outgoing or 'bubbly' person.
I'm sure you've heard it said before, but it does get better once you hit adulthood. People become less cliquey, less concerned with fitting in and become more accepting of foibles and eccentricity. They don't become perfect, but they're not as nightmarish as teenagers. You will also (hopefully) become more comfortable with your own identity, learn to love yourself (sorry, I'm trying very hard NOT to sound like some saccharine US talk show host!) and care much less about fitting in yourself.
I'm sure you've heard it said before, but it does get better once you hit adulthood. People become less cliquey, less concerned with fitting in and become more accepting of foibles and eccentricity. They don't become perfect, but they're not as nightmarish as teenagers. You will also (hopefully) become more comfortable with your own identity, learn to love yourself (sorry, I'm trying very hard NOT to sound like some saccharine US talk show host!) and care much less about fitting in yourself.
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