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Is it possible to go so long without sex, that you stop wanting sex?

To give a bit of background, I am 23 and male. I am practically a virgin. I have had sex once and the sex was very bad. I had no urge to have sex when I was with the girl, the sex was boring, I had difficulty getting it up and remaining hard (not because of nerves). The girl also told me to my face that the sex was bad.

I had waited so long to have sex, that when I finally did get the chance for it, I didn't care. I wasn't bothered about it.

For the last 8 or 9 months, I have suffered from what I believe to be low testosterone (although I have not been checked out by the doctor). I have little urge to masturbate, I rarely think about sex, rarely watch porn, my diet is good and I work out in the gym when I have the time, but that has not helped. I see all these guys out there with high testosterone (especially in the gym) but I feel like the total opposite.

As the months and years have gone by, I have noticed I have a lower and lower interest in sex, and a lower sex drive. In the last 8 or 9 months, my sex drive has dropped off a cliff to the point where I don't even feel like a man anymore.

Is this my body getting used to the fact it gets no sex? Can you go so long without sex, that you stop wanting sex and your body produces less testosterone (the hormone that is responsible for sex drive)?

Reply 1

Jen090393

Coming from a girl, my sex drive is very different and having a low libido is quite normal apparently for us
From a male view though I think it's something you should get checked out - there are a number of disorders that can cause a low sex drive and if it's low enough for you to notice then it could be an indicator that something is wrong. Id get down to your GP or GUM clinic at get checked out :smile: