21 yr old female getting depressed due to lack of love life, what should I do?

That akward moment a hetrosexual 20 somthing male has gone further and with more guys than you

Hi, I am a female virgin that is confused, I have only ever kissed two guys in my life. The most recent guy I really really like and would like to be something more with but I feel he is blowing hot and cold with me, he knows I like him and he has expressed the same feelings but we have let things get a little steamy a couple of times before he leaves whatsapp/ skype abruptly which leaves me feeling used and sometimes cheap. I have never had a proper boyfriend but my family dont help as they make me feel like I am odd for being 21 and still single, I look at couples and think what is wrong with me? what has she got that I don’t? .

It is really starting to get to me, I feel like such a failure in life. Also what should i do about the guy as well? as i feel i am the only one who makes effort to ask him how he is and just the friendliness.

my advice

get a hobby enjoy your youth and stop waiting for someone to come along for the sole purpose of making you happy, it's an unreal expectation and completly unfair on any future partner.

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Hi, I am a female virgin that is confused, I have only ever kissed two guys in my life. The most recent guy I really really like and would like to be something more with but I feel he is blowing hot and cold with me, he knows I like him and he has expressed the same feelings but we have let things get a little steamy a couple of times before he leaves whatsapp/ skype abruptly which leaves me feeling used and sometimes cheap. I have never had a proper boyfriend but my family dont help as they make me feel like I am odd for being 21 and still single, I look at couples and think what is wrong with me? what has she got that I don’t? .

It is really starting to get to me, I feel like such a failure in life. Also what should i do about the guy as well? as i feel i am the only one who makes effort to ask him how he is and just the friendliness.

Hi, I am a female virgin that is confused, I have only ever kissed two guys in my life. The most recent guy I really really like and would like to be something more with but I feel he is blowing hot and cold with me, he knows I like him and he has expressed the same feelings but we have let things get a little steamy a couple of times before he leaves whatsapp/ skype abruptly which leaves me feeling used and sometimes cheap. I have never had a proper boyfriend but my family dont help as they make me feel like I am odd for being 21 and still single, I look at couples and think what is wrong with me? what has she got that I don’t? .

It is really starting to get to me, I feel like such a failure in life. Also what should i do about the guy as well? as i feel i am the only one who makes effort to ask him how he is and just the friendliness.

^ This

Something will happen, whenever that may be. Why? Not because of some nonsense about fate or destiny, but just because that's how life works. Live, learn, grow, become confident in yourself, get to know the people around you. Proper romantic relationships evolve naturally when going about your life as best as you can, not by consciously searching for individuals who match criteria or waiting for some expected wonderful person who you mistakenly think will suddenly fix everything by merit of simply 'being' your boyfriend.

Sure, keep trying with the guy you're into if there's a chance, but don't seriously obsess over the notion that it's this which defines you or is the magical solution to all your personal worries and melancholy. When you do end up in a good relationship (because we invariably 'end up' in these, they take us by surprise usually), it won't be the fact that you're in it, the 'achievement' that you've attracted someone or the quality of the sex that makes you happy; it will be that it'll be someone that you're happy just to be with. Nothing more, or less.


Also, there's no need to identify yourself as 'female virgin'. The fact that you haven't had sex is not a reflection on you as a person or your value as an individual, but if you stick 'virgin' into descriptions of yourself, it reinforces the notion that it should be!