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My mum wants me to go to a sixth form/school that I don't want to go to?

I know people always say "You're mum knows best" but I know that going to the sixth form she wants is not going to make me happy. She chose what secondary school I went to, and all my friends went to the secondary school that I wanted to go to. I've spent 5 years in this school, and I don't like it, I only have like one or two proper friends there that I see outside of school. So I won't really miss them that much. So that's why I want to change school for sixth form, but she is saying "No, you're not going there, that's for underachievers, why would you go to a great school just to take a step down at A-Levels". And to be honest I know that going to my current school's sixth form will probably get me better grades, but I won't be happy. Not to mention my school is an all boys school, and so is the sixth form. I want to go where it's mixed, ill get pretty good grades, and ill actually have fun.

So anyways, I have my mind set on going to the sixth form that I want to go to, can she stop me from going there? Surely it's my choice where I want to study for my future? It's closer to my house than the one she wants me to go to, it's also non school uniform, so she doesnt have to pay for any uniform stuff.
Original post by nacho123
I know people always say "You're mum knows best" but I know that going to the sixth form she wants is not going to make me happy. She chose what secondary school I went to, and all my friends went to the secondary school that I wanted to go to. I've spent 5 years in this school, and I don't like it, I only have like one or two proper friends there that I see outside of school. So I won't really miss them that much. So that's why I want to change school for sixth form, but she is saying "No, you're not going there, that's for underachievers, why would you go to a great school just to take a step down at A-Levels". And to be honest I know that going to my current school's sixth form will probably get me better grades, but I won't be happy. Not to mention my school is an all boys school, and so is the sixth form. I want to go where it's mixed, ill get pretty good grades, and ill actually have fun.

So anyways, I have my mind set on going to the sixth form that I want to go to, can she stop me from going there? Surely it's my choice where I want to study for my future? It's closer to my house than the one she wants me to go to, it's also non school uniform, so she doesnt have to pay for any uniform stuff.


Your mum is right. She wants you to achieve your best so you can secure a place at a top university for the course you wish to study. School is not about fun, people who go to school to socialise tend to do a lot worse than people who just focus on their studies.

Get through sixth form, and then have fun at uni. You just have to change your mind set, and start thinking that you're only at 6th form to study. That way, you'll be happy.
I understand why your unhappy about it.
In one way, your mum is right, she wants you to get the best grades. and if this sixthform really is for "underachievers" why go there?
Why not talk to her and explain why you don't want to go there. make her see it from your point of view/
A bad sixth form can give you bad grades, but so can a bad atmosphere. There's not really much I can advise other than try and convince your mother. League tables etc are somewhat misleading, and really it's more self determination rather than good teaching that will give you good grades.
Original post by Mr...
So you are telling him to have fun in uni which is more important than college even though people who "have fun fail"

You sound very contradictory...


You are assuming a lot. I said he can have fun at uni, although uni is more important, there is way more free time at uni to allow him to have fun. Schools/college/6thform are too strict.
There aren't only two schools in the world. If you want a change because you're unhappy where you are, and your mum wants you to go to an academically achieving school that will help you get top grades and secure your future, then why don't you both work together to find a third sixth form that will do both?

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