Waiting - too much of fantasy films or reality?

It will be our 4th year anniversary of being together in a Long Distant relationship this month.

having been in a long distance relationship, we hardly see eachother. Seeing eachother even once in 3 month = we would consider lucky. Many of our friends are jelous of our relationship, considering us as the perfect example of a perfect couple.

I just turned 21, currently in final year studying biomedical sciences, aspiring to become a doctor. he is 21, turning 22 in a few months, not entered uni yet. He has done courses that are equivalent to A/levels as he came into the country late. He applied for university last year for engineering, had a conditional offer but did not make the entry requirements in summer.
I think that not entering uni is starting to get to him.
As asians, our parents have high expectations of the son in law / daughter in law to be. I.e. educated, decent, good family background etc.

I will be completing my undergrad degree this summer, and so will be classed as a graduate. Whereas, it will take him time to enter uni, start and finish the course he wishes to study. However, studying is not his forte. And he highly doubts the likelyhood of going uni and doing well.

Problem: he is comparing himself as someone that i don't deserve. He is asking for a break.. so he can sort himself out. He said he will come and propose, and ask my hand for marriage to my parents himself when he feels he is ready. And till then, has requested to stay apart.

He is adamant about his decision. Ive talked everything theough with him.. but he refuses to change his mind.

Is staying apart the right decision? Is waiting for (max) 4 years doable? Or is it too filmy

It will be our 4th year anniversary of being together in a Long Distant relationship this month.

having been in a long distance relationship, we hardly see eachother. Seeing eachother even once in 3 month = we would consider lucky. Many of our friends are jelous of our relationship, considering us as the perfect example of a perfect couple.

I just turned 21, currently in final year studying biomedical sciences, aspiring to become a doctor. he is 21, turning 22 in a few months, not entered uni yet. He has done courses that are equivalent to A/levels as he came into the country late. He applied for university last year for engineering, had a conditional offer but did not make the entry requirements in summer.
I think that not entering uni is starting to get to him.
As asians, our parents have high expectations of the son in law / daughter in law to be. I.e. educated, decent, good family background etc.

I will be completing my undergrad degree this summer, and so will be classed as a graduate. Whereas, it will take him time to enter uni, start and finish the course he wishes to study. However, studying is not his forte. And he highly doubts the likelyhood of going uni and doing well.

Problem: he is comparing himself as someone that i don't deserve. He is asking for a break.. so he can sort himself out. He said he will come and propose, and ask my hand for marriage to my parents himself when he feels he is ready. And till then, has requested to stay apart.

He is adamant about his decision. Ive talked everything theough with him.. but he refuses to change his mind.

Is staying apart the right decision? Is waiting for (max) 4 years doable? Or is it too filmy

So he wants to break while he is at uni (a place known for highly promiscuous behaviour) and then return to you.

4 years is a lot.

Were both faithful to eachother. There wont be any ifs or whats or buts.

Were both faithful to eachother. There wont be any ifs or whats or buts.