Moving to town/uni for wrong reasons?

So a while back I moved away to start fresh. I mostly wanted to be in the city. My past has been hell basically and I felt trapped so I moved to try and start a new life.

I decided to study something because it was creative and It was last minute clearing. I loved being in the city at first but where I was living was isolating, after about 5 months of being there, I got more isolated, by people at uni, I felt confused, I never connected with anyone because they were completely different from me but I was friendly and really nice. I'm confident in my own skin and I usually don't give a monkeys what others think.I joined clubs, societies which was fun but nothing was really changing. The course wasn't challenging and it wasn't giving me a purpose. I love working because it keeps me busy and has a structure. I spoken to a therapist and he said I was very strong in doing everything alone in a new place and it was other peoples problems ands things will get better sooner or later.

The isolation was changing me mentally. Was this mostly because I was doing the wrong thing and for the wrong reasons?

Reply 1

Kittiara

Maybe. Moving to a whole new environment and being surrounded by people very different from you is really difficult to deal with. I've done that before and it took me a long while to feel at home and connect with people. Also, if you're not passionate about your studies and you don't feel challenged, that's not going to help. Then, there is your past which you're probably still coming to terms with.

Can you switch to a course you're more interested in that would provide you with a challenge? That would be a first positive change. How do other people respond to you? Is it them who aren't interested in you, or do you feel as though you have little in common with them?

I wouldn't give up. You are very strong to have made it this far, and it can take time to make friends.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Thanks for your reply

I'm hopefully going on another course next year, something full time. I kinda chosen to study the course to stay where I was but I still tried even though it was getting me down. Most of the students were either nerds or punks and I'm complete opposite so that was probe the reason too.

They response to me weirdly and were fake which was confusing and immature. It was negative but I was a positive person.They was silly gossiping going on about me and it was never said to my face but I raised above it. I'm also a very independent person but still love to socialise.