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how do you react when you meet someone better than you in every way?

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Original post by kumon
Well that's life, people will always be better, and move on.


easy enough to say theoretically, but how would you feel when it's put in practice and you're unemployed, your parents disowned you and your partner left you for this godly person, hmm?
Original post by Wattsy
It should never happen, you always have to back yourself. There is always an angle you can take where you have an edge. Use those edges to your advantage and succeed in life.


such as? This person is invested with all the skills and talents you hve. You would have to use something very unique and personal to defeat them. Like fighting an evil clone :tongue:
Original post by Drewski
Naturally I'd assume they've got some hideous degenerative illness or massive, albeit hidden, character flaw in order to feel better about myself.[/QUOTE]

haha I've noticed people do this rationalisation self-defence mechanism when faced with cold hard truths alll the time :biggrin:
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Original post by Smash Bandicoot
such as? This person is invested with all the skills and talents you hve. You would have to use something very unique and personal to defeat them. Like fighting an evil clone :tongue:


Read the full thing. Some strong traits lead to weakness in other areas: you're supremely confident which inevitably spills over into arrogance meaning you're not humble. Humility is a great thing which allows you to annoy way less people. Arrogant man has more friends but also more enemies and worse friends so you have a 6 and two threes situation but taken in isolation, it's a win for your character accompanying a loss of equal magnitude but it still disproves your idea that someone could be better in every way.
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Original post by Drewski
Naturally I'd assume they've got some hideous degenerative illness or massive, albeit hidden, character flaw in order to feel better about myself.[/QUOTE]

haha I've noticed people do this rationalisation self-defence mechanism when faced with cold hard truths alll the time :biggrin:


You're insecure. If you met someone who's better than you, there's always someone worse than you. People are living in poverty, disease and danger.

Learn to put things in perspective and stop thinking about first world problems.
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Original post by Smash Bandicoot


You're insecure. If you met someone who's better than you, there's always someone worse than you. People are living in poverty, disease and danger.

Learn to put things in perspective and stop thinking about first world problems.


Of course I'm insecure. So is everyone, but myself more than a few, since most people are not persistently plagued by distressing thoughts like this-or choose notto think about them tbqh, I know I have agency. I have a morbid fascination with how people's insecurities are exploited (including my own) and how they would react.

In the event of OP, homelessness, divorce and unemployment, this wouldn't be a first world problem anymore. In fact the use of that term is sometimes a means of dismissing an argument people cannot tolerate.
Original post by Wattsy
Read the full thing. Some strong traits lead to weakness in other areas: you're supremely confident which inevitably spills over into arrogance meaning you're not humble. Humility is a great thing which allows you to annoy way less people. Arrogant man has more friends but also more enemies and worse friends so you have a 6 and two threes situation but taken in isolation, it's a win for your character accompanying a loss of equal magnitude but it still disproves your idea that someone could be better in every way.


read the bit 'incredibly benevolent and altruistic' [I should have added humble]

add 'is simply naturally or has simply attained through hard work a state of superiority to you'
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Original post by Smash Bandicoot
read the bit 'incredibly benevolent and altruistic' [I should have added humble]

add 'is simply naturally or has simply attained through hard work a state of superiority to you'


You've created an impossibility then so I have no idea how I'd react. I'll never encounter this person. I can't imagine this person would go down well with me though. Nobody is allowed to be better than me at EVERYTHING, that would defeat my whole theory.
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Original post by Sophie-X


Of course I'm insecure. So is everyone, but myself more than a few, since most people are not persistently plagued by distressing thoughts like this-or choose notto think about them tbqh, I know I have agency. I have a morbid fascination with how people's insecurities are exploited (including my own) and how they would react.

In the event of OP, homelessness, divorce and unemployment, this wouldn't be a first world problem anymore. In fact the use of that term is sometimes a means of dismissing an argument people cannot tolerate.


Only homelessness isn't a first world problem. Unemployment and divorce are both first world problems, the latter is very common in first world societies actually. A lot of people are refraining from marriage and are having less children. If you're unemployed in this country and receive benefits, you're much better off than say someone who's starving in Africa. Even the poorest people in the UK are better off in a global perspective. So, your point doesn't make much sense.

You're confused. You should get help immediately.
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Original post by Smash Bandicoot
How do you know it will never happen?

Because I put effort into myself. There isn't time in the day for someone to be better than me in every way.
There is no such person...
Original post by Sophie-X


Only homelessness isn't a first world problem. Unemployment and divorce are both first world problems, the latter is very common in first world societies actually. A lot of people are refraining from marriage and are having less children. If you're unemployed in this country and receives benefits, you're much better off than say someone who's starving in Africa. Even the poorest people in the UK are better off in a global perspective. So, your point doesn't make much sense.

You're confused. You should get help immediately.


I think you are applying First World problems too literally, and to problems in the First World which are actually quite detrimental, when #firstworld problems tends to refer to the 'problems' of entitled middle-class people who do not know the meaning of the word poverty. E.g.

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=firstworldproblems&biw=1040&bih=738&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=SvySVJmuGdDe7AafxYDwDg&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ#facrc=_&imgdii=_&imgrc=LXJJn0ou4dXOFM%253A%3B_-mh6fOGuV4V2M%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fshechive.files.wordpress.com%252F2013%252F07%252Ffirst-world-problems-0.jpg%253Fw%253D500%2526h%253D375%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Ftheberry.com%252F2013%252F07%252F08%252Ffirst-world-problems-17-photos%252F%3B500%3B375

I know where you're coming from, gratitude and all that is good! Nonetheless 'starving children in Africa' is a reductio ad hominem I've heard from my mum since I was 10 (and she did her best not to make me a spoiled brat).

Few individuals are altruistic enough to be constantly guilt-ridden for feeling stressed by personal circumstances because of well-known more significant social problems. And I really doubt you are either (I have encountered maybe one person in my life that altruistic). Generally I see this as a case of champagne socialism...
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I'd do what I always do in such situations: I'd have sex with them. :sexface:
Original post by superwolf
I'd do what I always do in such situations: I'd have sex with them. :sexface:


would your child be able to defeat them after 18 years of hiding and training by 2 Jedi Masters?
Original post by shawn_o1
There is no such person...



Original post by shawn_o1
There is no such person...


bit arrogant that innit
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Original post by Shadoo
Coming from the rep abuser.


I can't help that people love my illustrious content and shower me with reps as a response
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
would your child be able to defeat them after 18 years of hiding and training by 2 Jedi Masters?


*recoils in horror at the thought of having offspring*
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
bit arrogant that innit


It is not arrogance, it is "being realistic". If you really think this person who is "better than you at everything" exists then you'd be stuck in depression forever.
They would only be better than me if they were also more good and compassionate than me, in which case they would be more considerate than to take over someone else's life and friends and even bedroom, knowing that other person (who is not a bad person) got left in the cold. It just wouldn't happen. If such a person existed I would probably like them and they'd have the goodness in their hearts to not be destructive towards another person.

If they were selfish enough to take everything from me when they already had a lot going for them, then they're lower than me.

Bloody hell I only spent like 2 seconds editing it and it gave me the "last edited by" message, doesn't give you much time to correct errors does it?
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Original post by shawn_o1
It is not arrogance, it is "being realistic". If you really think this person who is "better than you at everything" exists then you'd be stuck in depression forever.


I'm a wee depressed loool

I have countered someone better than me in many ways and made me sad, ruined my relationship

It is not impossible, indeed not improbable for the swarms of the mediocre out there.

Original post by Powpowpowpowpow
They would only be better than me if they were also more good and compassionate than me, in which case they would be more considerate than to take over someone else's life and friends and even bedroom, knowing that other person (who is not a bad person) got left in the cold. It just wouldn't happen.

If they were selfish enough to take everything from me when they already had a lot going for them, then they're lower than me.


The Perfect One thought this through but they also reasoned that they brought great joy to the family/workplace/partner, indeed the family spoke of being broken shells if they ever left, the workplace of how the company will go under if they go, the partner even threatened suicide if they were to lose the Perfect One and said to The Perfect One that as much as they cared for you the Mediocre One, their feelings for The Perfect One were so strong and felt so right that having both you the Mediocre One and them in their life was causing the partner unbearable grief and driving them to insanity.

And so, The Perfect One, reluctantly adopting a utilitarian approach, decided that it was for 'the greater good' that you (the Mediocre One) were to suffer and be removed from the equation-knowing that this was not a perfect solution and returning to the studies of their enlightenment to seek a more noble course of action in future. Before so doing they the Perfect One advised you of how you too were bringing greater joy to the lives of your loved ones and colleagues making such a sacrifice, although less joy than them because they had devised this solution moments before you without ego or desire in mind, whereas many of your solutions were ego and desire based, based out of need; even your decisions borne of love were still in part borne of desire for one's life to be the way it was, of child-like attachment and need for control. Ergo, they were still more compassionate and altruistic than you in both their ultimate decision and their reasoning behind it, i.e. better than you in every way.
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