Is it wrong to be annoyed how my boyfriend spends his money?

I've been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years and during this time we haven't really done a lot unless I convince him and pay for us both myself (e.g. theme park trip, festival, weekend away, concerts - all of these I have had to pay for both of us) I enjoy doing things with him hence why I pay for him to come. But he has got his own money which he spends nearly entirely on himself. He has bought car modification parts, bikes, motorbikes, expensive protein. Things he doesn't really NEED or things that don't include me as he goes biking with his friends and not with me.

I am just annoyed that when I suggest an activity for the both of us he claims to have no money whereas he has enough to spend on himself! I don't even want him to pay for me just cover his own costs.

I feel guilty if I go with my friends as he complains about being left out or me choosing other people over him but I can't afford to pay for 2 people all the time! And he doesn't even thank me usually.

To be honest, I would probably use sarcasm to get my point across eg if he buys expensive protein just casually be like "oh wow, thought you didn't have any money for that thing I asked for yesterday...how strange..." It means you're not starting a full argument, you're just letting him be aware that you're not naive on what he is doing. Or if he says he doesn't have any money, say "are you sure...you bought x,y,z yesterday, thought you had money to burn the way you spend it ".

If he can do what he likes with his money, then you can do what you like with yours. You don't have to pay his way, and if anything, I think he is taking you for granted and is expecting you to do it.

If he cares that much he would want to do what it takes to spend time with her. If theres anyone here that is being selfish, I would say it is him as she has always been the one spending? If there is anyone acting unfair and unreasonable, it is also him as she has stated that he is not happy when she goes out with her friends and spends her money on herself. However, he has no issues spending his money on expensive stuff and time with his friends and spends none on her. Do you know that some women like to be treated irrespective of whether or not they have millions in their account?

This thread is 5 years old but it's easily done. Don't forget to check the original post date before replying.

Hi do you have a similar thread that is current for people who may have similar question?