It was my 22nd birthday on Sunday 22nd, and I'd created an event at least two weeks before. I had invited 11 people, 7 said they were coming, 2 were maybe, 1 had to decline and the last person didn't respond.
One said he was back home in Cornwall, when I thought he was in London. Fair enough reason. One girl said she had a thing in London, she told me at least a week before the thing happened. Fair enough reason.
The plan was to meet at a big park in Brighton, The Level and rain was forecast so it would have been eating/coffee shop (one friend is 17 and the other is not a fan of pubs) for a few hours and then pub crawl from about 6. All was fine until the actual day.
The event was supposed to start at 3pm. I use initials for each person to protect identities.
12:20 Friend L says he's at tattoo convention and says he'll come to the park. Fair enough reason, he can do both
14:03 Friend RD says he's ill, possibly hungover but can't be sure
14:03 Friend C sends message, doesn't give reason why she can no longer come
14:06 Message friend HB, wants to meet at 8, had said before he'd be later, fair enough
14:35 Friend RL is looking after ill girlfriend, says can't make it, fair enough
15:00 See Snapchat, friend HP sends snap of going fishing with friend B - hadn't said anything about not coming, both were on the FB event
So I'm sat on my own in a pub on my birthday. Thought "might as well do pub crawl" so started at the first pub on the crawl. Actually cried. Friend RL invites me round to his house, I think out of sympathy, we go to chinese buffet and friend L arrives and leaves after 20 minutes. He's had a new tattoo done. To quote him "people suck".
Saw HB for a few drinks, left just after 11. Not a total disaster in the end, better than last year where Amsterdam failed, 80s club failed and spent until 10pm alone because friends went to oxford street and went to drink with one friend.
The reason why I give you this story is because I want to cut all ties with the four people that let me down, I could also talk to them about it, but I'm not a confrontational person. I'm just completely unsure about what I should do because my birthday means a lot to me. I don't know why these people wouldn't come to my birthday, as I went to their respective events. I don't know what I did to deserve being alone on my 22nd birthday, after a failure of a 21st. It's got me depressed as I wanted my friends to be there at my birthday, after last year failing I had optimism as it was a new group of people, it should have been the best I've ever had.
If there's any way you could advise me I'd appreciate it. I'm probably just being over sensitive, as usual.