I think I love my friend - he's a guy, I'm a guy...

Just message him every now and then to see how summers going. Maybe you could organise a meet up over summer? In order to maintain a friendship you have to be proactive but not overly needy

You probably admire him for getting far in life it's perfectly normal.

I have quite low confidence, and self-esteem because people have treated me pretty awful in the past. I have struggled to maintain and form friendships in the past because of this, and because of the nature of my degree, where I need a have extensive study abroad periods. For the first time in years, I made a group of friends that I feel appreciate me, and I (like always) think they're great.

I left university yesterday until September, but I'm terrified they will not speak to me - 'I'll keep in contact' is just thrown around too much.
One of my friends I've grown very close to, we just get on, and have a great friendship, and after only two days apart, I already feel so sad leaving him. Now when I say I love him, I don't necessarily mean in a physical (sex) sort of way - I think. I'm unsure of my sexuality, but don't believe in pidgeon holing people into gay, straight and bi boxes, you like who you like. I've never had a relationship.
I believe I love him in the sense that I see him as family almost, I actually care about not just him but friends in general. I don't want to lose contact with him, but I've already been told he's useless at replying to texts etc.
I'm on a massive low which has last years, and yeah basically I don't want to lose more friends I care about, though I almost feel doomed to the fact that it's going to happen. I make all the effort in friendships.

Any advice for me? I'm new to this, and think advice of my peers would be wonderful. Thank you so much if you read this, I appreciate it so much!

It's a lovely feeling isn't it?



Is it because you miss your friends (or the university environment) or being lonely is the cause of your feelings towards the person?

If he's useless with text then don't put too much hope in it; you may send a few but again, don't set your heart in it too much.

dude, get a girlfriend

And if it turns out he is actually gay... Don't tell me... He should get a girlfriend

I don't know what I am, truth be told!

How are you doing OP?

Thanks for asking!
I don't like to moan, but pretty bad. I just feel very lonely. Started having darker thoughts, or at least more of them. Not spoken to any of my university friends since Monday.

OP I understand that it must be difficult for you but i must stress the importance of making new friends where ever you go and as you move locations throughout your life. It is inevitable that friends drift apart or get closer due to life events and so it's important not to put too much burden/expectation on one friend. What if he gets into a relationship or something? Usually than will make that friend less available. Spread the risk and make friends as you go.

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Thank you for your reply
I completely see your point, but I don't want to make new friends anymore, I want to sustain and grow the friends I have made. The friend I am discussing has a girlfriend (though he sometimes does feel sad about that) but that that's not an issue. It's actually not really even about him now - I just feel so lonely, like crippling lonely. People don't bother with me, unless I make the effort. I see that everybody else has someone else - he has a girlfriend and brother, my other friends have best friends at home. I have no siblings, and don't have anyone in my home city. I just hate being alive, everyday is such a struggle.

Thanks for asking!
I don't like to moan, but pretty bad. I just feel very lonely. Started having darker thoughts, or at least more of them. Not spoken to any of my university friends since Monday.