Should I forgive my ex girlfriend?

I wouldn't get back with her

Okay, so my ex girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago.. (ikr boohoo)
I'm in my late teens and we were together for roughly a year. Our relationship was very good (we shared most of the same friends, interests etc.. and were a very popular couple in school). And of course I loved her, and always thought she felt the same way...

But here's the thing, she left me for her best friend. We were both friends with this guy (however she's been friends with him since childhood). And I always felt insecure with the way she acted around him (very affectionately). So I brought this up many times, but she always insisted that it meant nothing and that she loved me.. God was I a fool XD

After the break up, I forgave her (even though I found it extremely difficult) and we continued to be distant friends. However recently, she's been texting me about all her problems and we have our old conversations; even when we see each other, it's almost like nothing changed (but she still continues to date this guy).

I don't see what she likes about this guy either.. (apart from he's very kind), they share no common interests and are clearly on different academic levels (sorry don't really know how to put it into words haha).

Should I attempt to cut this girl from my life completely and hope the feelings pass? This is at the risk of losing the majority of my friends.. And if I'm honest, I love having her as a friend.. It's just so difficult to conceal all of these feeling ugh >.<

Thank you for any responses (I know it's long and boring)

Sorry to be so harsh with you, but definitely cut off. And you can only be happy you lost those friends, if you want to call them that, because you have not suddenly become somebody else, you are still you, break up or no break up, there is not reason why your friends should not be friends with you after that.

You are going to big time regret getting back with her, (maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of your life - haha!) no seriously you will.

Good luck and stick with your decision, whatever they are.

Thanks for the reply!!
We still go to the same school.. Is it going to be impossible to cut her off completely. Should I just try to distance myself?

Okay, so my ex girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago.. (ikr boohoo)
I'm in my late teens and we were together for roughly a year. Our relationship was very good (we shared most of the same friends, interests etc.. and were a very popular couple in school). And of course I loved her, and always thought she felt the same way...

But here's the thing, she left me for her best friend. We were both friends with this guy (however she's been friends with him since childhood). And I always felt insecure with the way she acted around him (very affectionately). So I brought this up many times, but she always insisted that it meant nothing and that she loved me.. God was I a fool XD

After the break up, I forgave her (even though I found it extremely difficult) and we continued to be distant friends. However recently, she's been texting me about all her problems and we have our old conversations; even when we see each other, it's almost like nothing changed (but she still continues to date this guy).

I don't see what she likes about this guy either.. (apart from he's very kind), they share no common interests and are clearly on different academic levels (sorry don't really know how to put it into words haha).

Should I attempt to cut this girl from my life completely and hope the feelings pass? This is at the risk of losing the majority of my friends.. And if I'm honest, I love having her as a friend.. It's just so difficult to conceal all of these feeling ugh >.<

Thank you for any responses (I know it's long and boring)

Okay, so my ex girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago.. (ikr boohoo)
I'm in my late teens and we were together for roughly a year. Our relationship was very good (we shared most of the same friends, interests etc.. and were a very popular couple in school). And of course I loved her, and always thought she felt the same way...

But here's the thing, she left me for her best friend. We were both friends with this guy (however she's been friends with him since childhood). And I always felt insecure with the way she acted around him (very affectionately). So I brought this up many times, but she always insisted that it meant nothing and that she loved me.. God was I a fool XD

After the break up, I forgave her (even though I found it extremely difficult) and we continued to be distant friends. However recently, she's been texting me about all her problems and we have our old conversations; even when we see each other, it's almost like nothing changed (but she still continues to date this guy).

I don't see what she likes about this guy either.. (apart from he's very kind), they share no common interests and are clearly on different academic levels (sorry don't really know how to put it into words haha).

Should I attempt to cut this girl from my life completely and hope the feelings pass? This is at the risk of losing the majority of my friends.. And if I'm honest, I love having her as a friend.. It's just so difficult to conceal all of these feeling ugh >.<

Thank you for any responses (I know it's long and boring)

Okay, so my ex girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago.. (ikr boohoo)
I'm in my late teens and we were together for roughly a year. Our relationship was very good (we shared most of the same friends, interests etc.. and were a very popular couple in school). And of course I loved her, and always thought she felt the same way...

But here's the thing, she left me for her best friend. We were both friends with this guy (however she's been friends with him since childhood). And I always felt insecure with the way she acted around him (very affectionately). So I brought this up many times, but she always insisted that it meant nothing and that she loved me.. God was I a fool XD

After the break up, I forgave her (even though I found it extremely difficult) and we continued to be distant friends. However recently, she's been texting me about all her problems and we have our old conversations; even when we see each other, it's almost like nothing changed (but she still continues to date this guy).

I don't see what she likes about this guy either.. (apart from he's very kind), they share no common interests and are clearly on different academic levels (sorry don't really know how to put it into words haha).

Should I attempt to cut this girl from my life completely and hope the feelings pass? This is at the risk of losing the majority of my friends.. And if I'm honest, I love having her as a friend.. It's just so difficult to conceal all of these feeling ugh >.<

Thank you for any responses (I know it's long and boring)

Tell her she can't have the best of both worlds - she can't have a best friend whom she confides in and a boyfriend from which she alternates between as and when she pleases.
Let her know that you still have feelings for her and though you to may never get back together - this "we can still be friends" relationship isn't working for you. Tell her it hard seeing someone you once loved with someone she told you not to worry about and that surely coming to you for relationship advice is well pretty selfish under the circumstances.
In these situations it's best to be acquaintances and not friends and keep it civil or at least till your feelings have faded.

First mistake was getting insecure over the other guy. Either you should have broken it off stating you perceived divided attentions and wasn't interested or you shoulda just played it cool.

For some reason getting antsy over another guy only pushes girls further into their arms.
Sucks but there it is.

Secondly being so matey with her was possibly a mistsep. It's possible she's tried to cast you in the role of girl friend, but you're not.

You can be cool and mature about a break-up without having to pretend you don;t have feelings.
I'd say take the initiative and distance yourself over time so it's a more natural parting of ways. Remain civil just don;t commit yourself to a level of friendship if it's too problematic for you.

Plus as long as you;re hung up on her (it's probably obvious enough to her) she's going to lead you about like a pet, taking confidence from the attention while you get no-where and nothing but frustration as you;re attention and sight is blinded from other opportunities about school.

Look at it this way: You say you were a popular couple at school. Maybe some people envied what you had. Maybe even one or two girls wanted what you had. Wanted you?


basically in internet "playboy" terms, don't allow yourself to get a bad case of "oneitis".

You're young and single and whatever potential you had with your ex has been fully explored. Certainly chasing after her will only push her constantly out of arms reach.

Date other girls, enjoy the single life, be cool and aloof with the ex. Give her the chance to and wait for her to miss you, drunken call you, come round and throw herself at you.

Or continue to date other girls and have fun frustration free if it turns out she's never coming back.

best of luck.

Okay, so my ex girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago.. (ikr boohoo)
I'm in my late teens and we were together for roughly a year. Our relationship was very good (we shared most of the same friends, interests etc.. and were a very popular couple in school). And of course I loved her, and always thought she felt the same way...

But here's the thing, she left me for her best friend. We were both friends with this guy (however she's been friends with him since childhood). And I always felt insecure with the way she acted around him (very affectionately). So I brought this up many times, but she always insisted that it meant nothing and that she loved me.. God was I a fool XD

After the break up, I forgave her (even though I found it extremely difficult) and we continued to be distant friends. However recently, she's been texting me about all her problems and we have our old conversations; even when we see each other, it's almost like nothing changed (but she still continues to date this guy).

I don't see what she likes about this guy either.. (apart from he's very kind), they share no common interests and are clearly on different academic levels (sorry don't really know how to put it into words haha).

Should I attempt to cut this girl from my life completely and hope the feelings pass? This is at the risk of losing the majority of my friends.. And if I'm honest, I love having her as a friend.. It's just so difficult to conceal all of these feeling ugh >.<

Thank you for any responses (I know it's long and boring)

Do you ONLY do things with this friendship group?? If you do, you need to socialise with others outside the group. Try something new, something you've always wanted to do, you'll meet new people and get over her in no time.

In other words, stay friends with her, it's probably best for both of you but try and meet new people so you get over her and feel less insecure around her and her bf (which seems to be an odd relationship tbh)