Hi Juicy J, thanks so much for your reply,
Firstly I'm sorry that you're experiencing the same and I hope you're doing okay. I know it's temporary, it's just hard because it's new to me and I really did love her. I still do, and I think the hardest thing is that I wanted to TRY long distance and see what happened, whereas she didn't even want to try, so that hurt even though I completely understand her point of view.
It's things like reading and the acoustic guitar album I was working on and had so much enthusiasm before, and going to the gym to train for some runs I'm doing, I just don't want to do any of it now. I think I need to go home and see how I feel then as I'm still in my university town at the moment and there are a lot of memories in this room that aren't helping. I'm also pretty much out of money so there's little I can realistically do, but going home may well help, I just know that I'll get a massive case of cabin fever if I go home for the summer. I just feel so alone, y'know? You're right though, I know it'll help to do things.
I'm not holding onto any hopes of getting back together and I wouldn't want to let her do this to me twice, so I've accepted it's over, I just haven't come to terms with it anymore. Nothing was wrong with the relationship at all, we were just going to be apart and she didn't want to try. I'm a big believer in fighting for a relationship and only giving up if it's absolutely not going to work any other way, but I'll never have that closure that I did everything I could. That's why I think it's hard for me.
I get what you mean about other women and I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I hope it improves for you with this other girl too. There are girls I'd have liked to go out with before, but I just don't think I could do that to someone else if I wasn't entirely into it. It takes me quite some time to get over these things because I throw all of myself in and I don't think people I'm with understand how involved I get in relationships. Some friendly female company might be a good idea though.
I'm still in contact with her and I'm glad she's doing well, but most times when I hear/ don't hear from her it just makes me upset, so that's not a bad idea actually. I just miss her so much.
Yeah you're right, setting goals would be a good idea, it's just like my ship won't have a bearing for a while and I don't like not knowing what I'm working towards. I'm going on a long bike ride in Europe in 6 weeks, but that's a hell of a long time to be inside my head, y'know? Thanks so much for your counsel though, I really appreciate it. If you want to talk about anything on your mind, then just ask me to message you and I can talk it over with you too, but no pressure
Thanks again.