Would you date someone with a mental illness?

realistically no.

Plenty of people with severe mental health problems are interesting and funny and have hobbies and opinions. We're not stupid.

To answer your question OP, it would never be a blanket 'no' but it would depend on how their condition(s) impacted my own mental health. I have pretty intense and difficult friendships and I would need someone who could cope with my own complicated issues and emotional responses.

However, I find that the people who say they would (who haven't had mental health problems themselves or long-term experience of a close friend or family member having them) tend to be lying. Even if they don't realise it. People either see 'I have mental health problems' as 'I get a bit sad sometimes and I like things to be tidy' or 'I'm going to chop you up in your sleep with an axe'. Neither of these statements apply the vast majority of people diagnosed with mental illness. Also, people (mostly men) seem to think they can 'fix' you and when you don't get better through their efforts they decide you're choosing to be ill and make you feel like **** before saying they don't want to talk to you anymore.

So if I were to go into a relationship with somebody who had a mental illness, or illnesses then they'd have to be super special!!

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I would never rule anyone out purely based on the fact that they had a mental illness, but it depends how serious it was.

But then, if you fall for them, you fall for them so you accept them for who they are and everything that entails.


Why not (out of interest)?


+1

It would break my heart having to watch them go through what they're going through. I wouldn't know what to do, I don't think I could deal with that. Also if we had children, I wouldn't personally want them to grow up in a that environment because it's discomforting.

unless there's like-mindedness or interesting conversation I couldn't feel connected enough to date the person. That point also stands for someone that doesn't suffer from a mental illness though.

Yep, no quarrels.

Anxiety isn't an issue.

personally, i would rather be with someone who has mental illness over someone who don't.

i think its just because they more vulnerable than others, therefore i can take care of them. but thats just my freaky self so idk about others really

So you're impyling that the mentally ill aren't intelligent enough for you to connect with? We're people. We have thoughts, opinions and talents, just like anyone else you find attractive. The only issue is managing our emotions and reactions to situations etc. (all depending on the type of illness). I have clinical depression and anxiety, and am well known amongst my friends for being smart. The idea that somebody is defined by their mental illness is insanely ableist, lmao.

If somebody is able to manage their illness via use of medication and/or therapy, and doesn't behave in a way that's harmful to you, they are just as capable of the intelligence you seek in partner.

Thank you, based The Socktor. We're dateable!