Lol, Hmm, if you're like her you need to go on a cut first to get toned and actually have visible muscle. Again, I'll recommend you the same thing as Lilian, but with a few things changed.
Training regime: Bill Starrs 5x5, Read more about it here:
http://www.geocities.com/elitemadcow...Linear_5x5.htmFollow the program exactly. It's more or less based on the big three compound lifts: Bench press, Squats and Deadlifts.
You'll need to do quite a heavy weight, A weight you can lift 5 times but no more (Positive failure on 5th rep.) This regime is for beginners and will give you a nice little overall layer of muscle to start on.
Diet: Needless to say, your protein intake must be 1g/lb of Bodyweight. You can get this from drinking Whey protein shakes, depending on your choice, milk, eggs, cottage cheese and every kind of meat on the planet. Keep your calorie intake in 500 cal DEFICIT for a month on this diet. Just find any product with high protein which is suitable to your diet. Eat complex carbs before and after your workouts, make sure you drink a fast absorbing protein after your workout (Whey.) If you choose to do so, Eat your cottage cheese right before bed because it has Casein which is digested over 8 hours so it makes you stay Anabolic for the night. A cutting diet is based on High protein, medium carbs, low fat. You want to be cutting out EVERY fatty food possible. You have restrict yourself to meat, eggs, dairy, fruit, veg, poultry etc. No processed foods. You're allowed one BIG cheat meal a week for that stuff so save it for then. For Cardio I'll recommend MAX-OT style cardio (Don't follow the weights program, too complex for you atm.)
www.ast-ss.com -> MAX-OT. Do cardio everyday in addition to that. Weight lifting is very very efficient on terms of calorie burning, I burn 700+ calories in my very short workouts.. Wrist size 5.5 probably places you in.. Ectomorph regions, but you've probably put on weight due to your sedentary lifestyle and bad eating habits, Were you thin as a child? or chubby?