Listen, my sister, the final destination is near and these thoughts will rise and affect the ummah all around the world but you have to stay strong. You need to realise why do we wear the hijab? Yes, we hide our beauty and what not but what is the real reason? To please our creator. Wearing the hijab shows everyone that you're a Muslim but it also shows that you have the courage to do that and especially in this day and age, that message can be powerful. The hijab shouldn't be forced and you shouldn't be oppressed because oppression is haraam in itself but you need to seek guidance in Allah and break through that barrier Shaytan is trying so hard to keep strong because it's you who is going to suffer.
Also many Khafir are going to attack the Qu'ran and what not but Allah usually gives examples of the most unusual cases because Allah knows what will happen so therefore he gives us the Qu'ran as guidance. In addition, why believe Khafir when they've already been strayed away however if Allah still hasn't let them go they will Inshallah always come back to Islam. I recommend Nouman Ali Khan.
For the issue of family, I completely understand however it's culture not Islam itself. My extended family back home believe in arranged marriage and oppressing women even though that's against Islam?
Also, the comment on the verses in Qu'ran they can be misinterpreted. For example, some take it as a literal meaning while others take it lightly. For the writing in bold, it's written for the bad women for the women who don't believe.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1azySjz4edk I think this the video that explains this well.
Also, you say you love God and you can stay modest without hijab but how? You love God so you agree to not show your faith openly? You think you can stay modest but you want to go away from one thing that will keep your modesty. Just think about this, alright. You take your hijab off and you think yes I'm free but...but there can't be not but because you're "free" but there is. You'll start thinking I need to put some makeup but oh just a little bit. I should do my hair a certain way because that's how guys like it, how can you keep your modesty then? Now, I'm not saying this out of being Muslim but from experience. People claim that hijab and modesty is to keep yourself restricted but hijab is the one thing that empowers you.
I don't want you to think I'm bashing you because I'm really not. I've had this reoccurring thought throughout my life but you need to know why you wear that cloth on you're head because it's much more than for a man. I hope you feel better Inshallah. I'll keep you in my duas.