So I met this guy 5 months ago on a night out straight after he came out of a 5 year relationship.
I started dating someone for 2 months and during the time we kept in touch a lot but never saw each other during that time until I was fully single again.
We both have hectic work schedules and sometimes its just nice to chill at home - I invited him over mine and cooked a nice dinner, we then ended up having sex.
We then hooked up 3 times more during the course of a month or so.
He then decided to give things another go with his ex and contact went sparse.
I know that he was just trying to do the right thing with her and trying to stand by her as her mum has cancer - they have a long history and lots of mutual friends and a house together.
About 3 weeks he broke it off. He loves her, but isn't in love (they don't even kiss!)
Ive seen him twice during the 3 weeks, both hook-ups. I think its a bit more than friends with benefits and we both agree on this, but his schedule is too busy with work right now and I know his telling the truth and eventually we will find the time to go on a proper date.
....... today I found out that HIS mother now has cancer. He said that he didn't want me to date anyone else and today I said that I didn't wanted to be there for him during this time and wont be dating anyone else.
Were not in a relationship though and I don't know if he's a guy I want to be with in the long run but we call every day and hes become a good friend and I do really like him but im not ready to commit.
Is it ok if I keep on dating secretly? What doesn't know, doesn't harm right?