I personally don't wear scarves/tights or do the silk thing at night because somehow, they always end up on the floor and I henna my hair so would hate stained silk! My bf is english and he absolutely loves the bed hair I get..and I tell you, I get some freaky bed hair, so it's all good. I think once you explain to your bfs, they will understand the effort it takes to have your hair the way it is. I told mine and he's always asking how my hair is doing and when next I'll be in braids lol
I really wish I could get into a routine and stick with it, and I've tried and I'm lazy lol
For those of you who are finding it hard to find hair products, like I've been saying, check out nappturality.com. There are english girl on there who are more than willing to help and in their product lists, you will find things that are highly recommended that you'll be able to find over here.