I can’t take being this lonely anymore

It’s become such a normal feeling that I’ve come to think this is who I am and this is perfectly normal but living my life through myself is so excruciating at times if I pay attention to it.

I’m only 18 and I have priorities other than relationships of course, and I know it’s silly to get all wrapped up in this because I’m young and I will likely meet many people in the years to come.

I keep busy with college work and taking care of myself physically and mentally of course, I have a set routine which brings me great peace and clarity mentally, so I am actively working on things to help my mental health. Because God knows if I don’t, I’d be much worse off.

It just bums me out sometimes at how much I wish my social life was different, or even existed for that matter, whilst it will likely change and I know I’ll be fine I just need to vent my frustration at how much loneliness gets to me.

Reply 1

NonIndigenous

20

Whilst others are peeing away their free time from the excessive boozing, you're getting ahead.

Nothing to feel bad about. Just find people with similar priorities/mindsets. That will help a lot.

same tbh

idk what advice to give you, but i am the same. you're not alone, things will look up xx

Reply 4

Repeater

7

I also experienced the feelings you describe when I was 18 too. I'm 32 and it has got a little better for me, but only in the past 2 years or so. University didn't change my loneliness, only recently have I made people I would call friends and had any kind of social life.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by NonIndigenous

Whilst others are peeing away their free time from the excessive boozing, you're getting ahead.

Nothing to feel bad about. Just find people with similar priorities/mindsets. That will help a lot.

Yeah you’re right, I know there’s a lot still to come in my life, I think heading to Uni will be great for expanding socially so I have something promising to look forward to.

Cheers for replying.

Reply 6

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

It’s become such a normal feeling that I’ve come to think this is who I am and this is perfectly normal but living my life through myself is so excruciating at times if I pay attention to it.

I’m only 18 and I have priorities other than relationships of course, and I know it’s silly to get all wrapped up in this because I’m young and I will likely meet many people in the years to come.

I keep busy with college work and taking care of myself physically and mentally of course, I have a set routine which brings me great peace and clarity mentally, so I am actively working on things to help my mental health. Because God knows if I don’t, I’d be much worse off.

It just bums me out sometimes at how much I wish my social life was different, or even existed for that matter, whilst it will likely change and I know I’ll be fine I just need to vent my frustration at how much loneliness gets to me.

i literally feel the same way as you, im 18 and i feel like i have no friends. i focus on my college stuff and i have people to talk to in lessons but i never have anyone to hang out with or go out for a drink with or even just to socialise with. im jealous of all the people that have these big friendship groups and i genuinely feel awkward all the time cos im on my own because i dont fit in with the people at my college. everyone is so obsessed with tiktok and i just never saw the big deal about it, or they like taking drugs which is also not my vibe. i cant wait for uni, i really hope i get the social life i want.
either way, your not alone!

Reply 7

Anonymous #4

You are not alone! I feel you, i am the same way, even though it is slowly changing. I always feel weird because of it. I feel like everyone has at least one loyal friend and i don't have even that...