Hi! So I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, we starting dating in the summer of 2022 and it was amazing, i really fell hard for him and we were doing everything together, i never had a bad thing to say about him. On approaching my last year of a-levels i felt so much more stressed, i was in the library a lot and revising at home, i was not really going out anymore. I also have to make my way to my sixth form by myself on the train (which is an hour ride) so I have to work at the weekends to which is already stressful enough.
Honestly i have not been able to see my boyfriend so much, probably like once every two weeks, but we text everyday! It's just I've been so stressed recently and I haven't been able to make time for seeing people I don't already see in sixth form (he doesn't go to the same sixth form as me). We don't even live close to each other, so travelling to see him is becoming a bit of a pain, and expensive!
But the problem started when I would take a bit longer to message him back, probably wouldn't answer his messages for a few hours, and he would get so mad. He wouldn't tell ME he was mad but he would tell all of his friends. Now these friends are mine too, but he has told these people that I actively 'ignore him' and I'm not coming to see him and when he goes out with our friends he starts to cry and they feel bad for him, obviously. But these friends go to my sixth form and some of them are in my classes and we get along really well and it's becoming increasingly awkward since they purposely ignore me and give me dirty looks ever since my boyfriend has been saying these bad things about me while being drunk.
My boyfriend even does the same thing to his friends and then when he asks me to come out with his friends i feel really awkward because he has constantly **** talked about me to them how he doesn't think i love him anymore! Which i have never said.
I've told my boyfriend numerous times that I'm sorry I'm not being so active with messaging you it's just I'm really tressed with a-levels atm!
Another thing: my boyfriend does not take a-levels, he's always like, well your exam is in a few days u can just stay at my house and we can go to the pub and drink as a little break! Which is nice, he's trying to tell me to take a break but i simply cant go all the way into london and drink which would take away 2 vital days of revision!
It just really upsets me how he talks so much **** about me to his and my friends and then expects me to come out with them all the time... and when i say i don't really feel comfortable... he begins to become really sad and purposely makes me feel bad.
Honestly im exhausted with this relationship, but will it get better once i finish my a-levels and im able to see him all the time in the summer like last year, or am i getting confused with the honeymoon phase??
I don't want to break up with him because he's honestly such a kind person and I've never met another guy as kind as him, but I don't know if the bad things he does weighs down all the good things he does?
Any advice?