Help: threatening to release my nudes

I’m a 13yr old girl and met a guy who lives in another country online. I made the mistake of sending him nude photos and videos of me doing things for him and now he’s sent the pictures and videos to some of my friends and he said he’s sent them all to his friends too. He’s now blackmailing me to send him more videos to him or he will post it online and sell it on the dark web.

I’m scared and don’t know what to do because I can’t call the police because my parents will find out and my parents are crazy strict if they find out they will take my phone and beat me. They’ll never give me back my phone or trust me again. I don’t know what to do

Original post by Anonymous

I’m a 13yr old girl and met a guy who lives in another country online. I made the mistake of sending him nude photos and videos of me doing things for him and now he’s sent the pictures and videos to some of my friends and he said he’s sent them all to his friends too. He’s now blackmailing me to send him more videos to him or he will post it online and sell it on the dark web.

I’m scared and don’t know what to do because I can’t call the police because my parents will find out and my parents are crazy strict if they find out they will take my phone and beat me. They’ll never give me back my phone or trust me again. I don’t know what to do

I’m sorry this is happening to you!
But the truth is, you are a minor, you should definitely tell authorities. If police sounds intimidating, you could tell a teacher :smile:

:smile:

I know that with Covid you can’t really talk face to face but maybe you could email them?

As for your parents, don’t worry about that that is the least important thing in a situation. The truth is, they want to protect you from harm that’s why.

Good luck! I hope your alright

Original post by Anonymous

I’m a 13yr old girl and met a guy who lives in another country online. I made the mistake of sending him nude photos and videos of me doing things for him and now he’s sent the pictures and videos to some of my friends and he said he’s sent them all to his friends too. He’s now blackmailing me to send him more videos to him or he will post it online and sell it on the dark web.

I’m scared and don’t know what to do because I can’t call the police because my parents will find out and my parents are crazy strict if they find out they will take my phone and beat me. They’ll never give me back my phone or trust me again. I don’t know what to do

How did you meet him?
Do you have any real life information about him - do you know his real name? What country he's from?
How did you initially contact, snapchat? Facebook?

Let me know so I can help you out.

As you are under 18, it counts as child pornography and he can get in a lot of trouble for possession and distribution. Go to the police.

Original post by Anonymous

I’m a 13yr old girl and met a guy who lives in another country online. I made the mistake of sending him nude photos and videos of me doing things for him and now he’s sent the pictures and videos to some of my friends and he said he’s sent them all to his friends too. He’s now blackmailing me to send him more videos to him or he will post it online and sell it on the dark web.

I’m scared and don’t know what to do because I can’t call the police because my parents will find out and my parents are crazy strict if they find out they will take my phone and beat me. They’ll never give me back my phone or trust me again. I don’t know what to do

You need to tell an adult about this or a friend with great parents but whatever you do ,do not send him anything else.At the end of the day the key thing is he has groomed you and is now trying to blackmail you.Even if you blocked him and he did send these things to other people it would not be the end of the world although he is relying on your fear to control you so do not let him succeed.You have done well to tell us now try and tell someone in real life but please cut him off right now and I promise it will be okay.

OP

Original post by AndoJ99

How did you meet him?
Do you have any real life information about him - do you know his real name? What country he's from?
How did you initially contact, snapchat? Facebook?

Let me know so I can help you out.

We meet through Snapchat, I don’t know any of his real information, I think he’s from Portugal but I’m not sure.

I have no idea what to do, I doubt the police will even do anything because he’s another country and i don’t want my parents finding out

OP

Original post by Sabertooth

As you are under 18, it counts as child pornography and he can get in a lot of trouble for possession and distribution. Go to the police.

But he lives in another country would the police even do anything? Most things I found online suggest the police won’t do anything? I also really don’t want my parents finding out my life would be over they’re so strict

Original post by Anonymous

But he lives in another country would the police even do anything? Most things I found online suggest the police won’t do anything? I also really don’t want my parents finding out my life would be over they’re so strict

Block him, and delete every picture you have nude on your phone, wipe every chat if you can, and if your friends get pictures and ask you about it just tell them you’ve been hacked/prob was photoshopped and some random guy trying to spook you. Then never send nudes to anyone again, until you’re old enough to take responsibility. Even if you do send nudes, not showing your face will save you from any kind of blackmailing to a large extent as no one can identify its you.

i get that telling your parents can’t be an option. My own parent is abusive, so telling any authorities, risking that they won’t do much because they’re in a different country, and ending up in the emotional troubles of your family can be extremely hard. I’m not telling you telling the authorities isn’t an option, but if I were in your position and decided not to tell the authorities, I would cut everything off, delete any possible evidence of anything including history, and never, ever get into that situation again as much as you possibly can.

I was blackmailed in high school, did what I just told you, and never heard from the psycho again.

make sure he can’t reach you, even if that means deleting all your social media for a while and going low profile.

Tell a trusted teacher at your school about both this Norwegian (or wherever he is) blackmailing paedophile and your manic bullying physically abusive parents.

After discussing it with the teacher you may decide between the 2 of you to escalate both the paedo and your parents to the police and social services.

There is no way that you should be physically punished for what you have done. By all means let your parents take your phone, and be upset and angry - but your body is a temple. And it's not for them to attack or vandalise this temple.

You are not in the wrong here. You are a 13 year old that is the victim of grooming. And the victim of physically abusive parents.

Original post by Anonymous #1

I’m a 13yr old girl and met a guy who lives in another country online. I made the mistake of sending him nude photos and videos of me doing things for him and now he’s sent the pictures and videos to some of my friends and he said he’s sent them all to his friends too. He’s now blackmailing me to send him more videos to him or he will post it online and sell it on the dark web.

I’m scared and don’t know what to do because I can’t call the police because my parents will find out and my parents are crazy strict if they find out they will take my phone and beat me. They’ll never give me back my phone or trust me again. I don’t know what to do

This exact thing is happening to me WHAT DO WE DO!!??????

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