Driving instructor swore at me?

https://www.gov.uk/complain-about-a-driving-instructor

Can you text him and tell him how much he upset you by shouting and swearing at you in today lesson when you missed the sign and see what he says. If he is nasty in the text you can then use it. If not you can still report, even if it doesnt go anywhere at least it is logged if future students report.

So today I had a driving lesson and usually I’m fine during them, sometimes I make the odd fault and but my instructor would quickly help me correct it then guide me on how to improve for next time, and sometimes I would get told to slow down a bit too. I’ve been taking lessons for over a year now with gaps in between (due to pandemic and national lockdowns) so I’ve known my instructor for some time and have built a teacher-student relationship. Usually a really nice guy and quite funny too, very friendly but today he flipped at me:/ like really bad and I was so gobsmacked by it all, I came home and cried (it takes a lot for me to cry) and I made the tough decision to no longer take lessons with him despite me being so close to my test date, which is booked for early next year.

So basically, I was driving and my instructor asked me which way I was going, to which I responded with ‘straight’, then he pointed out a road marking which showed I can turn left only, to which I smiled and said ‘sorry I didn’t see that’ I indicated left and turned in. My instructor then said ‘how can you not see that, you need to slow down’ I then said ‘I just didn’t see it I didn’t realise that was on the floor’. He then said ‘why are you shouting at me, you don’t know how to drive’ to which I responded, ‘I do know how to drive’. At this point I am still under the impression that my instructor is having a joke with me and speaking to me in a friendly manner, which is why I responded in a friendly manner back to him and I laughed and smiled. He then responded back saying ‘you don’t know otherwise you wouldn’t have had to go through 2 instructors’, (I left previous instructors due to time wasting, turning up late etc) me still being under the impression that he was joking i said ‘I actually know quite a bit’, My instructor then responded back and began to raise his voice, ‘listen you don’t know how to ****ing drive, and don’t ****ing shout at me, your sat behind a learners seat for a ****ing reason, I don’t give a ****ing **** about how much you can put down your right foot, don’t act like your a ****ing stig when your still learning, next time you shout at me I’m gonna pull up on the side and have a word, girls like you are brats that think they know it all, you don’t know jack **** that’s why your in a learner car, piss me off don’t ****ing shout at me’. I remained quiet during this whole outburst and I didn’t respond to it. I carried on with my driving in silence whilst following my instructors directions.

Has anyone ever experienced something like this before? I want to report it to DVLA but I’m afraid they won’t believe me due to lack of evidence, because when they ask him about it he may deny it.

There was no need to cry though. That's not going to help. Just forget it and move on. Maybe change instructor

I completely agree with you that it's unacceptable behaviour.
But I can understand how someone might get to that point. Their entire job is sitting in a car with untrained drivers. They have to be completely focused the whole time, and with very new drivers will probably have to prevent them from creating potentially very dangerous situations to everyone.
I can imagine that if you've had a hard day/ week with lots of incidents you might get frazzled and end up just snapping if someone appears (in your short tempered mood) to be arguing back. Especially if you're one of the students they can rely on for an easier lesson.
Again. I don't condone that behaviour. Just putting out a suggestion for why they might have done that

Why u gon snitch bro,
he’s teaching u to drive and u can ****ing take criticism
like fam he’s the instructor not u ✌️
I mean yeh he said some questionable things which are wrong
but u triggered it in a way
mine swears a lot like what so?

nah bro thats fawked up

Why u gon snitch bro,
he’s teaching u to drive and u can ****ing take criticism
like fam he’s the instructor not u ✌️
I mean yeh he said some questionable things which are wrong
but u triggered it in a way
mine swears a lot like what so?

Please explain how I triggered it?

So today I had a driving lesson and usually I’m fine during them, sometimes I make the odd fault and but my instructor would quickly help me correct it then guide me on how to improve for next time, and sometimes I would get told to slow down a bit too. I’ve been taking lessons for over a year now with gaps in between (due to pandemic and national lockdowns) so I’ve known my instructor for some time and have built a teacher-student relationship. Usually a really nice guy and quite funny too, very friendly but today he flipped at me:/ like really bad and I was so gobsmacked by it all, I came home and cried (it takes a lot for me to cry) and I made the tough decision to no longer take lessons with him despite me being so close to my test date, which is booked for early next year.

So basically, I was driving and my instructor asked me which way I was going, to which I responded with ‘straight’, then he pointed out a road marking which showed I can turn left only, to which I smiled and said ‘sorry I didn’t see that’ I indicated left and turned in. My instructor then said ‘how can you not see that, you need to slow down’ I then said ‘I just didn’t see it I didn’t realise that was on the floor’. He then said ‘why are you shouting at me, you don’t know how to drive’ to which I responded, ‘I do know how to drive’. At this point I am still under the impression that my instructor is having a joke with me and speaking to me in a friendly manner, which is why I responded in a friendly manner back to him and I laughed and smiled. He then responded back saying ‘you don’t know otherwise you wouldn’t have had to go through 2 instructors’, (I left previous instructors due to time wasting, turning up late etc) me still being under the impression that he was joking i said ‘I actually know quite a bit’, My instructor then responded back and began to raise his voice, ‘listen you don’t know how to ****ing drive, and don’t ****ing shout at me, your sat behind a learners seat for a ****ing reason, I don’t give a ****ing **** about how much you can put down your right foot, don’t act like your a ****ing stig when your still learning, next time you shout at me I’m gonna pull up on the side and have a word, girls like you are brats that think they know it all, you don’t know jack **** that’s why your in a learner car, piss me off don’t ****ing shout at me’. I remained quiet during this whole outburst and I didn’t respond to it. I carried on with my driving in silence whilst following my instructors directions.

Has anyone ever experienced something like this before? I want to report it to DVLA but I’m afraid they won’t believe me due to lack of evidence, because when they ask him about it he may deny it.

Aiyt look, firstly
Yeh maybe he was stressed and the last thing he wanted was his own pupil tryna tell him what he’s meant to be telling them like
imagine tryna teach ur teacher, like I’d be pissed
U answering him back like, just accept it sometimes

Sorry but being stressed is no excuse to behave like that with a student. Shout at me that’s fine, but the swearing and the comments? Totally uncalled for.

Everyone swear unless ur from some sorta posh background
Chill
The comments yeh
But look
I ain’t here to debate,
Give my opinion and cut, Not to argue 😌✌️🌪🌪