Any advice about what to ask at speed dating events?

Ok, ive been roped into attending a speed dating event as apps are useless, rishta aunties are con artists, relatives are idiots and dont trust the back home approach as the people relatives find are extremely dodgy.

Ive had interest by women at work / was in a non sexual relationship with a dentist at work for over a month but i friend zoned her after we had an impasse regarding beliefs and differences in beliefs. That was 14 months ago almost.

Prettymuch a friend whose sister works for a large dating app has roped me into attending a speed dating event. Personally i think that app is useless and full of egocentric people who use and abuse others without any serious commitment to stoke their own ego but am curious to see if any serious people are there.

So yeah, has anyone been to any of these type events. If so, what questions do you ask?

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Lady_Bee

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Hi.
What's your name?
Tell me about home.
Tell me about work.
How has your week been?
What's your favorite colour?
Where was your last holiday? Where would your ideal next holiday be?
Where would you live if you had unlimited money?
Favorite book?
Favorite game?
Favorite TV show?

Assuming you will run out of time before getting through all those, but here are some others.

Do you have pets?
Do you prefer tea or coffee? Or
What's your favorite drink?
What would your last meal be?
Tell me about your family.
Favorite restaurant?
Favorite brand/designer?
Favorite sport?

I suppose you could also chat about current affairs but you run the risk of falling down the black hole of politics so exercise caution. You may enjoy a good argument but not all of your dates might 😬

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

The trick is to build on the conversation.
This is just an example but say if you asked for their ethnicity and they said they are Cypriot. You could say you've always wanted to go there, or you've been there on holiday and then go on to ask if they travel a lot, what places they want to go etc.

I've been speed dating before and trust me, if you're with a really boring person you don't want it to go silent so to pass the time instead of it being awkward, I'd build on the conversation.

Reply 3

Dunnig Kruger

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Original post by Anonymous

Ok, ive been roped into attending a speed dating event as apps are useless, rishta aunties are con artists, relatives are idiots and dont trust the back home approach as the people relatives find are extremely dodgy.

Ive had interest by women at work / was in a non sexual relationship with a dentist at work for over a month but i friend zoned her after we had an impasse regarding beliefs and differences in beliefs. That was 14 months ago almost.

Prettymuch a friend whose sister works for a large dating app has roped me into attending a speed dating event. Personally i think that app is useless and full of egocentric people who use and abuse others without any serious commitment to stoke their own ego but am curious to see if any serious people are there.

So yeah, has anyone been to any of these type events. If so, what questions do you ask?

What's with the negativity? Were you in a bad mood when you wrote this? Reading it over again now, would you write this post in a different way?

You could be given some questions that were so clever that they'd seem like Harry Potter magic spells. But if you ask those questions in the wrong tone of voice, or with the wrong body language, the spell will misfire. And if you cast the spell correctly and then follow it up with negativity you are unlikely to tap-off with a desirable person.

On the other hand, if you go into the event with no questions prepared at all and you have a foundation of feeling positive and enthusiasticand light-hearted you'll do fine

Original post by Anonymous

I've been speed dating before and trust me, if you're with a really boring person you don't want it to go silent so to pass the time instead of it being awkward, I'd build on the conversation.

I don't think that I have ever in my life met a boring person. Not in the context of a getting to know each other initial meeting.
If someone were to be so boring that they had nothing interesting about them at all, then that in itself would be unusual and therefore interesting.

Different people have different communication styles. Something that makes socialising so engaging is working out someone's communication style and moulding your interaction with them to that.

Original post by Lady_Bee

Hi.
What's your name?
Tell me about home.
Tell me about work.
How has your week been?
What's your favorite colour?
Where was your last holiday? Where would your ideal next holiday be?
Where would you live if you had unlimited money?
Favorite book?
Favorite game?
Favorite TV show?

Assuming you will run out of time before getting through all those, but here are some others.

Do you have pets?
Do you prefer tea or coffee? Or
What's your favorite drink?
What would your last meal be?
Tell me about your family.
Favorite restaurant?
Favorite brand/designer?
Favorite sport?

I suppose you could also chat about current affairs but you run the risk of falling down the black hole of politics so exercise caution. You may enjoy a good argument but not all of your dates might 😬

Do you want to ask the same sort of questions as all the other guys? Or do you want to stand out?
If you do ask standard, job interview type questions, it's then down to what in football would be called the 2nd ball. How you respond to their response.
EG What's you're favourtie colour?
Blue.
Blue, the colour of being miserable and cold? Yeah I can see that in you... Just kidding!

And how important is her last holiday and her favourite drink to whether you'd want to sleep with her or not?
How about talking about something that would help you decide if you wanted to get involved with her or not? As long as you keep it within the bounds of being socially calibrated.
EG What's the naughtiest thing that you've ever done? (if they hesitate to answer) Or the naughtiest thing you've ever done that you can tell to someone you've just met? (if they hesitate more) and if you tell me that you cheated in a test in Year 9 I'm outta here.

Any advice about what to ask at speed dating events?

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