Since I was 11 years old I have been wanting to join the British army. However, there was one problem that was stopping me, my family. Every single family member in my family are all left when it comes to politics except me, I consider myself a conservative.
My family are anti armed forces, I still don't understand why they are. I tried to join when I was 15 or 16 but my mother did refuse to sign the papers.
This September I will be starting university, whilst waiting for university to start I have also been thinking a lot about the joining the British army now that I have a chance to join as a British army officer.
The issue is 2 years ago my mother passed away when I was 20, my oldest sister considers her self my NOK, however, I have a best friend who I've put as my NOK she knows about this but won't accept it.
My sister has always said she would disown anyone who joined the armed forces as she says they're a bunch of terrorists - this really hurt me but mainly angered me.
I'm thinking about starting an application in September to join as an officer, but I don't know if I should tell my family as soon as I start the application or leave it till the day.
My best friend knows I'm going to apply, he is keeping it quiet and I haven't asked him for advice as I don't want him to get involved in the family drama, my best mate don't like my siblings and my siblings don't like him.
I do have a long term medical condition and I got in contact with the army to see if it was disqualified they went to check then got back to me and they said I wouldn't be disqualified from joining with the medical condition I have.
I am planning on applying for scholarships/grants to help my university costs and I sort of have it planned out. I can't decide if I should or shouldn't tell my family as my oldest sister is quite controlling. Even my GP knows about her controlling behaviour.
I also feel like not telling my family because of my sister being controlling and the family threatening to disown people if anyone joined the army. I'm not going to lie, if I didn't tell my family I was joining the British army I feel like I would have a fresh start.
It may seem harsh but I wouldn't care if I had no contact with them.
I would appereciate any suggestions you may have - I would go to my best friend normally but I prefer him to stay out of this, he has also told me why he don't like my siblings and all the reasons he's given are actually true.