ill try and keep it short,
at the start of the year me and a male flatmate fell out, there was no animosity on my part however for some strange reason he started acting really nasty towards me. it started off small like snarky comments in group chats however after confiding in all my flatmates about 2 incidents of street harassment right outside the flat, i asked them if they could start locking the front door. basically i live with 4 other boys and some of them don't lock the door when they leave the house. ive woken up for shifts at 6'o clock in the morning to discover that the front door had been left unlocked for the whole night, other times ive been the only one left in the house at night and the door has been left unlocked. at first i gave them the benefit of the doubt however after the two incidents the male flatmate i fell out with continued leaving the door unlocked. other flatmates listened to me and kept it locked. i even addressed it on the house group chat and he flat out said no, hes not going to do it. no other flatmates have stuck up for me once throughout all of this. tensions got worse between us and he would start leaving it unlocked all the time on purpose, which he gladly admitted to. arguments- more like screaming matches were frequent and i felt that at the time shouting was the only way for him to listen since asking him nicely gave him the need to laugh at me and make fun of me. he never listened and i think he was doing it because he liked winding me up. i then asked my flatmates to help me and they point black said its not their problem and its something for me to sort out. honestly, i felt so angry at them because it meant that the he could continue bullying me with no resistance. this went on for two months. he also got physical with me on two occasions where i did not provoke him to do so, he shoved me hard twice. i also things i shouldn't've done like bin some of his food in retaliation. this made it worse for me.
during the height of this, other friends in the group started siding with him (me, him and all other flatmates are in the same friendship group and go out regularly) i found out that he had been making things up about me yet hardly anyone wanted to listen to my side. i think he had a very clever way of manipulating the whole situation to make himself look better. despite this i did things that made me look bad such as deleting two flatmates off of SC. this was rash and regret it but i cant take it back now. i just felt so angry that they were all being bystanders and had the audacity to complain about the conflict at the same time.
currently, im not on good terms with any of the lads in the group or some of the girls. i give those people a very wide berth but it has made things extremely awkward for me in the group since half of them dont like me. looking back i would've done things very differently and regret some of the things i did. yet on the other hand, i had to deal with this all on my own and none of my 'friends' tried to diffuse the situation. at one point i was so stressed my grades were suffering and i was crying all the time.
what do i do???