so i am an 18 year old girl who turned 18 this year, and the reason i am asking this question is because the girl that i am interested in is 16, who turns 17 this year. i have argued with her on this topic so much to the point where i feel like i really need an unbiased opinion, but i dont feel comfortable speaking about it with friends in real life. i did speak to 1 friend about it who went through a similar situation, she was 19 he was 17, however idk if thats biased either lol.
so i feel like one thing i need to clear up is the fact that i am born early 2005 and she is born late 2006. it isn't a 2 year age gap, its like 1 year and 6-8 months, however when looking at it in school years for example, it would be 2 school years, for example year 10 and year 12 which i find gross to even think about. to her, this isn't an issue, as we do not live in the same country so our school systems don't work the same, but here in the uk, thats how it would be. in our situation it would be me just finishing year 13 and her just finishing year 11 which, again, i find weird. however, as i mentioned, thats not the same for her school- she said she could drop out and go to uni at her age, idk if this is true or not but idk.
another thing i feel i need to clear up is the fact that we are both girls, and i know, that comes across very sexist, but i have seen everywhere of research which says that girls mature quicker than guys, which in all honesty idk how truthful that research is, however this makes it harder for me to think about when thinking about maturity levels, as me personally i think she is very mature, and when ive looked at questions like this in the past its all been with straight couples, so i feel like it is the teeniest bit harder to compare to our situation however i could be entirely wrong and please tell me if i am. however, the point im trying to make here is that i think me and her are both equally as mature, maybe me a bit more only because i am an adult now basically.
i also feel the need to mention which may be the most important of all is that i wouldn't even start a relationship with her until she was 17 because i would feel more comfortable that way. also because i feel like i just want to know her better and see if it will last and waiting until jumping into anything. i also wanna say that when i first liked her i was 17 and she was 16, then we stopped speaking, i turned 18, and after we started talking again and the feelings came back. idk if that changes anything,... probably not. ive seen some people point out that if the 18y/o had feelings or got into a relationship with the 16y/o before they turned 18 then it isn't an issue, and although i did like her before i turned 18, we obviously didnt start a relationship and i also didn't know that the feelings were mutual until i told her like 2 months ago. (i also feel the need to point out here that i turned 18 3 months ago, she turned 16 like 6-8 months ago)
i also feel the need to mention again that we are from different countries, so it would be long distance. i most likely honestly wouldnt see her irl until she was 17/18 and i was 18/19. i feel the need to point this out due to like sexual relations in relationships, which i honestly havent even thought about until now due to the distance between us, but yeah it wouldnt happen at this age anyways.
anyways advice would really be appreciated, i know some people dont think that a nearly 2 year age gap isn't an issue however others do and id appreciate some advice. idk if i have stated in this but if i have im sayinf it again, i wouldn't get into a relationship with her until she was 17!