I met this girl a couple of years ago and we began talking. It’s going to sound bad, and I’m sorry that it does but I’ve since learnt a lot – please bear in mind this was two years ago. I was talking to a few other girls at the time when I started talking to her. I’m not a bad person and I’m not uneducated either.
We had a relationship of sorts but if I can be honest, she was madly in love with me and I simply wasn’t. She told me how much she loved me, many many times, that we would be together forever and that I was hers. She wasn’t aware of the other girls as such, but she knew other girls were interested in me and it would make her mad when they gave me attention (bless her). I was talking to other girls during our relationship, she always suspected but never fully believed it. I think I was enjoying the attention too much to say something. I appreciate I was leading her on of sorts, she was obsessed with me, infatuated and I suppose it made me feel good so I kept it going, pretending to “love” her as she loved me.
But fast forward to now, she basically found me out that I was messing her about the whole time and she doesn’t want to be with me anymore. But now I’ve now become quite fond of her and I like her. I also made the mistake of letting some of my mates see our messages – but that was at the start but that’s pretty much stopped now. She somehow found out and became quite upset – these were very private messages. I realised that was a bad mistake and if I could go back I wouldn’t have done that.
She says she made a big mistake with me and I appreciate it appears that way but I really want her to realise that people change, that people can learn from their mistakes. I think she’s too hurt and upset to hear me out. I do like her now, and I am very much willing to drop the other girls to be with her forever just like she used to say to me. I’d even be prepared to let her go on my phone whenever she wants.
I would really appreciate from a girl’s perspective on how I should go about fixing this relationship. She keeps saying she made a mistake and I’ve done so many wrong things but I can see she still loves me deep down when we meet. I don’t understand how she can tell me she’s made a bad choice with me whilst we’re holding hands. She still has all those feelings, surely she would want to give me another shot – properly this time.
I would appreciate from a girl’s perspective how to make her understand that I will take her seriously this time. Any advice on how I could rectify the mistakes and start again new with her. I’m sure there’s something there, otherwise she would have completely ignored me right? I’m sorry if it makes me sound bad, that was the old me, I realised my past mistakes and learnt from them.