Hi to anyone that reads this post , it is about my experience attending a relatively good university and atm on an exchange program half way across the world at an arguably elite university.
For some context on my background. I would consider myself very middle class particularly in the area I grew up in, think industrial town. Outside of my early childhood, I have never had to fret about having books, clothes or school dinners in the way that a lot of my peers did. I also attended one of the worst state schools in the UK ( I won’t give you it’s name sorry) and my most of my friends I grew up with are working class or were lower middle class , with one or two exceptions. I now attend a uni that is ranked top 40 of the world for my subject and my exchange uni is top 20.
My experience so far of these universities have been difficult to say the least. First when I arrived I was astonished to find that people were wearing signet rings and could trace their ancestry back to some form of gentry. I didn’t stay at the most expensive accom nor the least, just a middle of the road. But majority of the people were privately educated or from good grammar schools and everyone seemed to know one another or had some form of connection. I struggled to really find people I connect with and tried to morph my personality into this “indie” person( I did briefly have that type of interest before uni but mainly because I enjoyed playing guitar and tried replicating those songs) but I couldn’t quite shake this feeling off in my head that this wasn’t me so I stopped. I have made one friend they truly understands this, he coincidentally is from a similar background and situation. As the year went on I found myself being at odds with part of our then friendship group due to how they perceived us. They saw us as “laddish” people who were out of touch. Their reasoning for this was because we’d say some jokes which you’d make in the local town, but we also kept it very tame in comparison to what I was used to. They even labelled us “misogynistic” because we’d say so and so was attractive. This is bearing in my that their “friend” who is a bloke repeatedly h*t and man handled my best mates now girlfriend repeatedly throughout the year , where there were multiple eye witnesses and accounts. But they’d deny he’d ever do such a thing. Somehow they got most of the hall to turn against us with the exception of a few who saw what had happened. Looking back on it now the differences of how we view life came down to cultural differences, their group which was southern, privately educated and lived in very nice postcodes ( think near Regent’s Park) whereas me and my friend were state educated and from former industrial towns.
Second year then hit and found myself drifting from a few other friends that fall into the same kind of bracket above , because they didnt quite understand why I was working so hard at university to get the best grades and sending off internship applications because in their words “ we are still 20 and there’s no need to stress”. The people from my first year had a similar view of life and thought that everything would be handed to them. I am now in my third year across the world and I tried to avoid the mistakes of my first year by picking the cheapest accommodation. Yet again I have faced the same issues , very undriven ( the accommodation is a mix of 1st to 3rd years) and if I say anything that’s remotely dark like saying how the Australians gave the UK Rolf Harris they’d take it awkwardly and kinda just stare at you.
So to summarise this , why is it that good universities with predominantly middle class cohorts seem so far removed from working class culture despite being “left wing” or “woke, why is it that so many of them seem so undriven and does anyone have any tips on how to cope with this ?
Btw I wrote this in a rush on my phone because I have readings to do , but I had to get it off my chest. If anyone has any comments or wants me to clarify my experiences then I am happy to answer.