Advice on BF masturbating.

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5.5 years. We always did have a good, regular sex life. Things have fizzled down over time and it didn’t help when we had to move into my parents. I have quite a high sex drive and have spoken to him numerous times about the lack of sex we have to which he has always responded “he doesn’t have a high sex drive like me” and “I find it awkward being here at your parents”. I have tried spicing things up in various ways but I just feel 8/10 we just have sex because he wants to keep me happy but there are times that it’s really good and we both really into it. I have found that is masturbating when I’m not home and will have a w*nk as soon as I leave for work as I’m finding used tissues around. It’s really getting me down and making me loose my self esteem.

Reply 1

StriderHort

21

I think you need to put a bit more effort into talking with him about it. Having a partner with a significantly higher sex drive than you can be pretty intimidating & wearing and can absolutely lead to someone feeling pressured. Past a point they will kinda start associating sex with pressure so then yeah the idea of a quiet bit of self relief becomes a bit of a lifeline.

Oh, if a partner is feeling pressured, trying to simply 'spice things up' will often make things worse, it really does just ratchet the pressure up if someone was already reluctant.

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Reply 2

Zarek

21

Maybe he finds this less awkward than sex in someone else’s house. Sex drive mismatch seems to crop up in most long term relationships. All you can do is talk about it and find a compromise that works reasonably well. Ever then tensions can arise from time to time

Reply 3

Wired_1800

20

Original post by Cjt1234

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5.5 years. We always did have a good, regular sex life. Things have fizzled down over time and it didn’t help when we had to move into my parents. I have quite a high sex drive and have spoken to him numerous times about the lack of sex we have to which he has always responded “he doesn’t have a high sex drive like me” and “I find it awkward being here at your parents”. I have tried spicing things up in various ways but I just feel 8/10 we just have sex because he wants to keep me happy but there are times that it’s really good and we both really into it. I have found that is masturbating when I’m not home and will have a w*nk as soon as I leave for work as I’m finding used tissues around. It’s really getting me down and making me loose my self esteem.

It would be hard for him to knock it down, if your parents are in the same house. Imagine your papa walks in on him doing unimaginable things to his daughter. That’s grounds for violence imho. I would suggest that you try to find your own place.

Also try to check whether he is addicted to porn. Some lads are sadly addicted and it can be frustrating if his fantasy girls are different to you.

Good luck

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